“Happiness cannot be limited to a person or a thing. Happiness is an internal feeling; and what you need from an external situation - through a person you love, a thing you desire, or a position you seek - is a means of satisfying that deep emotional longing which connects you to your purpose of life and to your soul’s positive state of being.”
Loving ourselves is an art we are not taught in schools,
It means thinking for ourselves beyond what society demands,
God wants us to love ourselves above all else,
as our inner frequency brightens when consciousness evolves
All spiritual teachings say that we start attracting happiness in our life when we love ourselves.
However, most people equate loving themselves with buying food, liquor or clothes for themselves. That is where they harm themselves more than love themselves.
Loving yourself means that we live for ourselves more than for impressing others.
All our material needs are conditioned but our family’s thinking, peer pressure or professional needs.
Usually, people resort to drinking alcohol or taking drugs to reduce work pressure. These addictions act as relaxatives but relaxation is needed because we work to meet other people’s demands on our soul.
If we work for our own soul, we do not need addictions to escape. The work by itself is rewarding. If we feel drained and need to replenish our soul, meditation works as most relaxing therapy.
However, we feel we waste time on meditation because that is time spent on our inner self. Whereas if we drink liquor with friends in a club, it is time spent with others, on others.
We are so conditioned by society that we have to specialize and interact with our peers since childhood that we think that spending time with ourselves is abnormal. That is why we consider meditation abnormal and going to discotheques normal.
Yet, if we spend two hours being with ourselves alone , through focusing on inner breathing , meditating with chakra chanting music , painting, singing or dancing visualizing trips to heaven in imagination or just being in a quiet mental place without any demands by others; we feel far more relaxed than with any external activity we do with others.
Watching television is also an external activity as we are focusing on people other than our own self. So, we feel drained after we watch Television also than rejuvenated.
Some people like to go shopping to relax and love themselves, However, when they buy dresses or jewellery, they need to buy for fulfilling energy needs of the soul than impress others. Clothes or crystals can be bought to suit needs of colour therapy than please your maternal aunt.
Compliments from others do not make us feel as happy as when we feel we look good and feel good in our own definition of what is right or wrong.
Buying clothes or jewellery, cars or mobiles becomes important for most people to impress other people than for their own needs. People take on anxiety, stress and develop diseases because they feel frustrated that they dont have money. Yet, most of their money needs are for requirements to show off to others.
People feel loved when others praise them and they feel unloved when other people criticize. This dependence on praise and criticism is also based on conditioning as we are taught from childhood that we have to win approval of others.
When we love ourselves, we are less dependent on other people’s opinions and can live, dress, work and breathe for our own soul needs.
Happiness is achieved not by spending to please others but by spending time with our inner self. Our soul needs meditation and energy cleansing on a daily basis to stay healthy and happy just as we need to take bath to cleanse our body.
We feel truly rejuvenated, alive and happy when we live for ourselves, when we buy only things we need for our own health requirements or soul satisfaction. when addictions do not tempt is because we feel so much in bliss without needing liquor or drugs. As long as our focus is external, we feel deprived but when we start focusing on our inner self and make choices with our own judgment of correct and incorrect, we feel powerful and happy.
As is written in the book CREATION OF HAPPINESS: THE ENERGY WAR, a soul’s perspective:
In today’s world, most of us pursue success in order to gain happiness, yet, feel unutilized in terms of soul potential. We enter professions in order to make money rather than gain positive energy from the work we do. We assume that earning money would automatically bring in positive energy, which does not happen.
We do get the money but the money often, does not increase our levels of happiness. We accumulate external objects of comfort but do not feel comforted from within; the work we do appears meaningless to us.
A job which makes us feel more bored than fulfilled, subconsciously, appears meaningless when it does not help in achieving our soul’s needs of evolution.
Due to the law of repetition, the energies we focus on, multiply in our lives. If the work we do largely feels meaningless or empty or boring to us, except for the money it brings in, then we circulate the energy of meaninglessness in other areas of our life as well ,since energy spreads and cannot be restricted to one area of life.
The most prominent emotion which we focus on influences our whole being, as a soul and slowly our whole life starts feeling as futile or empty as the work we do.
The craving for fulfillment keeps nagging us but when we do not know how to fill it, we give into negativity. Feelings like anger, bitterness, frustration, being sucked into a vacuum, emotional starvation etc. dominate our mental state.
The only way out of this trap of endless craving, is to realize that money and soul satisfaction are co-related. Money would bring in happiness only when, it helps the soul feel it is contributing meaningfully, to its creative potential and to the world it co-exists in.
Feeling good within and earning appreciation from outside, would help raise the soul’s frequency to more positive.