HOW TO CREATE A POSITIVE SELF IMAGE

Our identity determines our self-worth, and our ability to ask for happiness Or recieve praise, acknowledgement or love from God or other human beings

A positive self-image can be created by counting our positive qualities instead of focusing on our bad qualities, subconsciously. To feel good about ourselves is necessary to find happiness in our life, as only energies of matching frequencies will stay together.

      Positive energy will increase happiness by feeling positive about self, whereas problems will increase by a constant focus on our disabilities.

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  Initially, a habit of feeling bad about self can be broken by counting ten good things in self as a daily practice.  Changing self-identity to positive increases confidence, and helps in being happy as a part of soul ascension.

      An identity is defined as the way in which we think about ourselves in comparison with the rest of the world. It is our self-image. E.g. I am fat, I am ugly, I am a failure, I am successful, I am average, I am pretty, I am emotional, I am practical, I am confident, I am beautiful, I am intelligent etc.

      Identity depends on internal dominant focus. For example, if a person focuses on a sad feeling, he keeps telling herself/himself constantly - ‘I am sad’. That feeling becomes his/her identity. Overtime, with sustained focus, this person creates a reality where he believes that he is sad/depressed by temperament.

          The negative feeling which we focus on becomes our characteristic. Other people refer to us a sad person or an angry person etc., because we think so about ourselves. Our behavior matches our internal dominant choice of focus. 

 With a negative dominant focus, we notice only that energy within us and around us which confirms our negative self-perspective. Since we pick up information from the world which matches our internal frequency, we are usually able to justify our anguish.

      At the external or conscious level of thinking, we think we have to focus on a problematic feeling because external circumstances force us to, whereas, from an energy perspective, it is the other way round.

          Subconsciously, we perceive the external circumstances as negative because our internal energy balance is negative.

      But our internal energy balance is negative, because at some point in our present or past life, we allowed ourselves to focus extensively on feeling negative. This feeling with the highest energy intensity became our dominant point of internal focus.

     For instance, it is possible that a person became fat at some phase of life, but subsequently, his identity became “I am fat “. Then, his over-weight is maintained because of his subconsciously held negative self-concept of himself. He cannot lose weight because he constantly keeps telling himself that he is fat. He subconsciously believes he is fat and moves his energies such that the internal command is obeyed. His balanced state of being in an over-weight position is maintained by his habits. He wants to exercise less and eat more because his energy focus is that he is fat.

     Change appears threatening because the internal balance is shaken and there is fear of fall. We become habitual to staying with a given set of problems.

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Balancing Body Needs with Spiritual Needs - Attaining Soul Enlightenment

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Happiness and enlightenment cannot arrive by ignoring problems to be happy or by denying that problems exist .Instead of preaching spirituality as being always good and being critical of routines difficulties; happiness arrives by overcoming difficulties with a  positive spirit while participating in the joys of life. Being alive entails consumerism , fashion, love, passion and joys of the creative soul other than work pursuits,  and it is necessary to be aware that facing negative setbacks experienced in family life and relationships, propels life force towards attainment of higher positivefrequencies.

The struggle for happiness, over lifetimes, leads to realization of inner peace and enlightenment . Difficulties create higher wisdom for the spirit who overcomes problems with optimism, hope and feeling peaceful than brooding over the negative setbacks.

Soul ascension to happiness is a process of acquisition and detachment wherein you acquire strength through worldly means to climb the next step on the ladder of ascension ; but detach from the lower ladder  of bad health, deprivation or lack of peace for moving onwards to a higher soul frequency.

Enlightenment is a process which is attained after a  spirit feels fulfilled , loved and acquires peacefulness by choice. Hence, to be happy and emotionally balanced, it is necessary to balance the need to spend on passions with the art of practicing detachment than completely force detachment as punishment on self. As research has proved through applied behavior analysis, positive reinforcement and intermittent rewarding gets better work done from children than negative reinforcement or punishment. The same theory applies while training the self to achieve more positivity . Rewarding the soul and praising small achievements helps more than depriving the self, as was the traditional route to enlightenment .

The balancing of consumerism with spiritualism and detachment leads to inner feelings of peace  while forcing hunger/ emptiness on self leads to  feelings of negativity and helplessness . As contrasted with greed which is akin to over-eating,  disciplined indulgence takes a soul closer to being happier for matching higher positive frequencies of the Creator .

While spiritualism helps you remain detached from over eating /over indulgence, the process of materialism helps you appreciate all that which is created by other souls seeking to rise with positive vibrations.On the ladder of ascension to happiness, it is necessary to spread happiness than compete to be happier than others .

Thus , the process of ascension to enlightenment has to be balanced with family life & Earth’s responsibilities so that you can appreciate and encourage the creative work of other rays of THE CREATOR while moving up to a high positive frequency . Ascension happens when your frequencies completely agree and merge with the creative consciousness, thus brightening the light and knowledge of the Creator.

The movement from negative thinking to positive thinking involves a state of losing balance at a lower negative state of being;and rebuilding balance, at a higher vibration which may be less grounded /secure than a negative, tense balance but is closer to ascension .