Thursday, 28 November 2013

MIND AFTER MARRIAGE - CHOOSE DIVORCE OVER SLAVERY ON BOTH SIDES


Don’t make promises to me which you cannot keep,

Don’t buy me gifts at the cost of my basic needs,

Don’t take me to parties when there is no peace in the house,

Don’t make me beg you for the smallest of my needs,

Dont make my mistakes the point of your discussions,

realize that i am different, let me be me , dont make me you

I like being me , allow me to maintain my dignity as being me,

Dont make me feel I am zero or nothing cos my choices are not as u wud make in my place

I choose my battles, let me fight my life's challenges as i feel is right,

I have different soul lessons and a different life plan,

Your responsibility is not same as mine,

Either be me completely or allow freedom as my birth right,

Two people cannot think alike all the time

as long as love & sex keep us together, ignore other parts you dont like,

If you cannot like me the way I am,

Choose whether you want to live with me or choose to quit the game,
Know that we are different people , not identical clones who have to be same,

Dont complain to me about your problems all the time,
 Unless you want to deal with them the way i like,


Manage your own arguments with your family and friends,

Don’t ask me to maintain relations at the cost of my integrity,

Don’t let your mother criticize us all the time,

If she does, don’t support her over me, in every quandary,


Don’t ask me to pretend to be a good , holy person,

When you want a rebel in me to break free from your family,

Don’t spend all my income on pleasing your family or friends,

And then shout at me to curb my requirements,

Don’t own me and then treat me like a dog,

I am not a pet that i can be pushed like a doormat,


 I cannot be happy with just your mercy  on my food or clothing,
dont invest nergy on me if you do it as a duty when its my right,


Don’t fight with me and act cold in bed,

Then say that i am bad person as i don’t support your needs,

Don’t sleep with me in the same bedroom if you don’t want to touch me,

Don’t live with me just because you have adopted me in marriage ,


Don’t ask my parents for money for our holidays and doctor bills,

Learn to balance without spending unnecessarily on luxuries,

Don’t buy cars and fancy mobiles for yourself,

And ask me to manage with old, used trifles,


Don’t ask me why so much money goes on electricity bills,

When i live alone, i manage according to my priorities,

Know that a family is as much your responsibility,

And all the bills increase because you like to use air conditioning not only me,


Don’t say that you have spent all your salary on me,

When i don’t even have a penny for buying me a something i need,

Don’t crib that i don’t dress up fancily like a filmstar,

I barely have enough to buy my kids some toys to feel free,


Don’t curse me that i need maids to manage the house,

You want quality life and it’s a result of joint effort,

Don’t marry me only because you find me good looking,

The beauty will not satisfy you more than a perfume does a day,


Don’t ask me to stay awake and party all night,

I have to get up with the kids and stay alert to help them be all right,

Don’t take me to hotels and restaurants and buy me food,

If that costs you the money i need to maintain my house,


Don’t say you want to buy me gifts and clothes,

And then refuse to give me pocket money salary or buy a laptop for my daily needs,

Don’t be the only person who has an image to maintain,

As your spouse, my standard reflects how much you care for my well being,


I have grown up with a parent who managed pretty well,

We may not have had excess luxuries but they did their best,

They never lost balance on money and cursed us openly for being around,


They did not make extra marital affairs the priority in life,


Don’t keep a fancy house and have no money for children’s special needs,

Don’t say you have to pay rent for us when we don’t need the house you can’t afford in peace,

Don’t crib about insurance and phone bills you have,

It is your decision to spend on all that not mine,


Don’t incur expenditures only to show off to your friends,

Your friends support you, not me in times of need,
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Don’t buy gifts to impress your family or mine,

And say you are sacrificing when there is no need,


Don’t keep asking me to take money from my parents,

When you decided to marry me and took responsibility ,

Don’t make my parents have pity on me because of our needs,

I do not want to be an economic burden on everybody,


If my parents have to help me with money,

They would rather maintain only me than you with me,


Don’t make fun of my parents for your amusement,

You don’t like it when i do the same to your family,

Don’t crib all the time that you have got married to me,


If life is freer after divorce, please leave my soul free of your mercy,

It’s no longer love, it’s more like slavery,

 I stay with you because i have nowhere to go without my money,

I have children and i don’t want to trouble my family,

I don’t feel needed by you or my parents,

But my children need me and i sacrifice for their needs,


I would be much happier if i could be without your cribbing,

I hate a social life where i cannot even smile in peace,

Don’t crib to your girlfriends that you have to stay married to me,

You are not doing me a favour by keeping me in sympathy,


If i am only like an employee you married for life,

Release me and give me gratuity not mercy in ur eyes,

If you would rather find satisfaction in another’s company,

Realize that you are no longer my dream saviour who i desperately need,

I do not want to be a nuisance in your life who you dont really need,
dont maintain me like a car to keep up with a good social face not any real need,

I am a human being and i like to be respected, valued and cherished,
If you do not need me, what makes you think that i like you feeling sorry u married me,

I have some virtues with which I can spread happiness to those who need,
I like to be acknowledged, loved and be given gratitude as you do,

I have learnt up to cope up with your abuses and thanklessness,

I would prefer being independent, and be with people who praise me for good deeds

We all want to contribute meaningfully in somebody's life
Why ahould we live together when we suffocate each otehr as husband and wife ?
There is so much in us which can be individually explored
We may even find people who love being with us

Marriage is not a relationship by birth and its cos its karma can be repaid in time,
you don't have to treat me like a burden and sacrifice all your life,
Settle the money issues and let us be on ouw own happily,

This is slavery because there is no worthiness attached to the job we do,
the effort of the man and woman are equal in a marriage,
if money can solve our problems, use it to set us free










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