‘You don’t have to walk on roads which have been walked on before, because they may not lead you to where you want to reach. You have the power to create your own road, the road which no one has ever walked before — In your process of discovery, you may get misdirected sometimes; yet, if you love yourself and trust in the universe, you are going to find the right track sooner or later.’
Due to the empirical evidence available, we can’t blindly follow the methods of pursuing happiness which have been founded by our ancestors because our history does not prove that humanity has led an emotionally successful existence. Instead of finding peace, health or happiness, with our comfort levels rising on the physical plane; our levels of stress, tension, loneliness, diseases and depressions have risen over the centuries.
It may seem daunting to change our conventional methods of thinking. Yet, the established route of finding happiness focuses more on the negative, than on the positive aspects of life. But, this focus on the negative aspect of life, i.e., on what is missing in comparison with another virtually, reverses the process of reaching happiness, individually, or as a whole.
A shift of basic thinking towards focusing more on the positive aspects of life, than the negative, becomes necessary to reverse the damage on human thought which a war torn history, has already caused.
Human thought is influenced by habit and tradition. If we focus on the energy or feelings underlying our thoughts, we would realize that we have been thinking the same way over centuries , and repeatedly manifesting the same emotional experiences, though the external form of our world has changed.
Thus, swords were replaced by guns and horses by motorbikes but the underlying intentions still remain the same.
Our traditional role models have been war heroes who killed others to survive themselves. It may be noted here that on a practical plane, our role models are not our Gods. That is because we worship Gods but we do not try to be them. We place Gods on a pedestal of superiority, miracles and sacrifice and we ask them for blessings and gifts; while we try to be like our mortal war heroes who acquired fame, power and money in their competitive pursuits.
But, there is no account of whether these warriors became happier by appropriating greater wealth or fame in external terms. Or whether the wars they fought helped people become more emotionally equipped to fight their internal traumas and evolve as souls?
The money which came from wars was usually used in fighting more wars, than in upliftment of human consciousness towards better management of survival needs.
Emotional betterment was left to chance as we looked for happiness outside the mind. Is it possible to be unhappy, sad or craving for love within and find happiness outside by eating or drinking? Can just pleasing the body make us happy when we are life-force creative particles in our essence? If being animal like was satisfying, why would we need to evolve towards creating happiness, as souls in a physical experience?
The ever increasing restlessness in societies, the rise in domestic violence, criminal tendencies, alcohol and drug addictions, medical bills and incurable diseases , prove that escaping the needs of soul evolution does not help. But we are conditioned into believing that the soul does not exist and that only earning money, fame or power matters in creating happiness.
Charles Darwin proposed the theory of Survival of the fittest for animals but human beings still operate on that principle by habit, because they feel they have to win by being above others in terms of money which essentially represents food and shelter.
The unconscious insecurity continues from the animal mind that for one to live, another has to die – be it physically, financially or emotionally. That is the basis of competitive thinking.
Yet, being competitive has not led the human race towards higher levels of happiness, peace or ethereal positivity. To be happy from within as souls, we need to discover our humaneness as distinct from our animal instincts.
Hence, we probably need to change the definitions of success which we glorify as part of our mental conditioning from childhood. Because of social pressures, we train ourselves to compete with others, to be what everyone else is and that whole mind-set makes us compromise on our needs of soul evolution.
At an internal level, there are pangs of having failed even when we feel externally successful because we fail to achieve that happiness, which we incarnate to achieve as souls.
Changing our core thinking to positive is not easy because we become habitual to sacrificing our soul needs to be happy , presuming happiness to be a compromise as defined by traditional doctrines. Yet each time we compromise because of fear of not having in the future, we focus on the negative aspects of life.
Initially redirecting our thinking feels like relearning the alphabet .But at some point, we need to realize that we cannot continue with the negative ways of thinking simply because we are conditioned into them! Our method of coping up has not helped us since centuries of trial and error in finding the happiness we seek through our efforts.
That we have achieved a state of balance being the way we are, does not mean that we are in an optimum state of balance. Since we feel more helpless, anxious and sick than healthy, happy and at peace on an average, it means that we are balancing ourselves in a non-optimal, negative state of being.
Generally, it is owing to beliefs embedded in mass consciousness and stored in the subconscious levels of our minds that we tend to get misdirected. These beliefs overrule our individual sensibilities about what constitutes happiness.
By making attempts to know that which specifically resonates with our individual sensibilities, and contrasting it with the values conventional thinking and mass culture hold to be true, we arrive at the dynamics of an underlying internal language influencing our perceptions and expectations as contrasted with an externally imposed language.
Our intention needs to be to develop awareness of the inner workings of the soul mind so that it can help us remain positively expectant through the ups and downs of life.