CHOICE TO BE HAPPY OR TRADITIONALLY SAD

Human beings have been trained into being sad traditionally . Though God aimed at creating a happy world, the scriptures were interpreted such as to promote misery over positivity. Instead of being used for promoting  goodness as a means of soul evolution, traditions were used to promote sacrifice over soul empowerment, compromise over evolving consciousness

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Circumstances on Earth are not the same today as they were forty years ago when our parents were young and leaning to survive. Due to the technological boom , the rising of Earth’s frequency and changes in new generation thinking patterns; choices today offer a lot more opportunity for being happy than was possible fr an older generation.

For example, women are far more liberated today than they were in the earlier days. As a result, it is possible to break marriages which do not support love and happiness, which was not possible by the traditional doctrines. Mind-sets have not changes completely but the process has begun. Women who are divorced experience a lot more freedom and space than being tied in an unhappy marriage. Parents have become more supportive and a woman with children gets more support from her parents than she does from an unhappy husband or in-laws.

Similarly, men have more freedom now to travel and find success in areas which was considered impossible earlier. Sports and entertainment industry are promoting income opportunities on wholesale for all those people who are willing to sacrifice family time and a need for conventional thinking/knowledge. Men who are not bound sexually find it much easier to grow in the entertainment industry than men committed to marriage vows or love needs. There is opportunity for survival where none existed earlier.

The need is to understand that everyone is not the same. Everyone will not find happiness in the same way and everyone will not even be happy with the same things. For one person, happiness may mean dancing at nights while for another person, happiness may mean reading a book cozily in warm blankets. Similarly, for one person, happiness may mean owning a surfeit of consumer items; while for another person happiness may mean having a small house in the hills with a waterfall nearby.

Tension and anxiety arise when you try to sacrifice your own needs of happiness and allow yourselves t dominated by other people’s thinking; deciding that others have more wisdom than you have. 

However, as souls, you have to realize that God created each one with a unique life purpose. Just as all flowers in the garden cannot be same, all human beings cannot feel good or be good by being the same .Some people literally look prettier while being fat than when they are thin.

Everyone does not have the same choice in clothes, in books or in food.

 If someone does not like what you like, there is no need to feel upset, yell, scream or attack in self -defense. Just as you cannot convert a cow into a lion, you cannot insist on converting a vegetarian into a non –vegetarian.

Similarly, people have different methods of worship. 

Some methods may be better than others but that is again a matter of perspective. Methods of worship differ depending on the region they were originated in, the language cult of the people and the climatic conditions which support the religion. For example, he Muslim and Christian religions allow eating non-veg. food because they originated in regions where vegetarian food was not grown in surplus. Muslim religions originated in desserts where there was no vegetation and Christianity thrived in the West where cold winds and ice rules the climate. God gave wisdom according to the needs of survival, as needed by the people pf the region.

However all religions support the common principles of being truthful and honest to yourself. Staying in unhappy marriages or in jobs where you have to compromise on your values, does not make you feel empowered as souls.

However, if you meditate deeply and apply ENERGY CORD CUTTING techniques daily, you will automatically leave a set-up wherein you betray yourself .But, if you cannot leave, you can choose to meditate and be detached by just becoming immune to comments which generate sadness in you. To be happy and wise, it is necessary to learn how to ignore dominating voices from souls who insist that you compromise, instead of obeying them or insisting that they obey you. 

Earth is like a roadway where there are different zones of driving. Some souls are slow drivers and some souls are fast drivers. The people who are negative and find faults with every situation are the slow drivers. They cannot drive in sped and harmony. Souls which are peaceful and can ignore obstacles are the fast drivers who can fly in speed over obstacles, doubts, towards being happy and healthy.

Understanding that differences exist and we can all live together in the same garden, called Earth, is necessary for harmony and happiness to rise as a whole.

God Changes Rules with Context but the Human mind becomes Rigid about Obedience

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The metaphors, rules and rituals given in scriptures are symbols depicting underlying feelings. Focusing on the right feelings increases happiness in life. If the methods followed to create the desired feelings create negative energy more than positivity in the being, they have to be discarded or changed with context, people and circumstances.

In the process of being happy, you always have to be aware that the words which spread negativity in the mind, are not the words of God but are wrong interpretations of scriptures done by people who feel negative about their own life.

The rules given in scriptures of God hold only at the level of feeling not in terms of time, place or rituals. Some interpretators of scriptures are so rigid that they prevent a person from praying because the methodology or time is not correct. Instead of helping a soul in evolving, such rigid parameters block the soul’s connection to God. Time and method do not matter to a higher soul frequency as only feelings or energy movement is felt in higher realms.

Traditionally, rigidity is encouraged to prevent destruction of old values.  However, old walls have to break for new structures to find place. Similarly, destruction of old values is necessary for new values to take over.

God represents love, responsibility and justice for all. God does not force you to follow any rule. Rules are made for your convenience and have to be broken for your convenience just as old structures have to be broken so that new ones can take their place. Rules and rituals which create tension have to be dissolved and replaced with habits which increase inner happiness and harmonize the soul with the body’s needs.

GHOSTS CANNOT HIT BUT THEY CAN MAKE YOU SICK FROM ENERGY CONTROL OF MIND

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Though popular media thrives on selling horror stories and ghost tales, Ghosts are as harmless or as harmful as a normal person can be albeit without a body to support it . Ghosts are generally frail and weak forms of holosync consciousness which does not evaporate just because the body dies. A person is a thinking being and the identity remains strong even though the body evaporates unless spiritual awareness develops enough to detach from problems on Earth at the drop of an instant moment of death.

It is silly to deny existence of ghosts as most people have spirit attachments like virus staying in body, be it of alive or dead people . If thoughts of alive people dominate you, you have spirits of alive people attached with you. If thoughts of dead people dominate over you, you have entertained ghost attachments who lost ther own bodies.

Ghosts exist just as air exists. Ghosts are the energy which remains when a physical body dies. While the physical body decomposes, the energy which is tied in thoughts of the person does not dissolve immediately after death on its own.

The consciousness of the person remains. If the person is spiritually aware, and thinks positive at the last moment the spirit consciousness releases into a portal of God’s light seen/felt at the moment of death. This light is of a positive frequency and can only absorb consciousness of a matching positive frequency.

There are several people who are not positive at the moment of death. The consciousness of sadness which people die with remains in the air and affects the thoughts of people concerned with the spirit like his/her family members, friends, relatives who stay connected in memory , lovers, soulmates and future incarnations.

Death is an illusion. Nobody dies. The spirit just eaves one body and enters another. If it gets released completely, it comes back in a future incarnation and a healthy environment. Most spirits do not get released completely and get fragmented into several parts which join different bodies.

If you are overweight, confused, anxious, depressed or have diseases in your body, it is normal to have a spirit attachment which is perpetuating the problems.

However, this consciousness of the dead person is made of energy or air. There is no physical body which remains and which can harm. The consciousness can only influence your thinking and transfer feelings of sadness by energy vibrations but it cannot touch you just as air cannot touch you.

The spirit can create mental tension in you but cannot hit you just as air cannot hit a physical form. The ghosts can make you indulge in self harm by inflicting thoughts of suicide inside you or it can make you doubt your self -worth. The spirits can also make you behave badly with others assuming that the other people are harming you and the spirit can make you hate yourself if it’s the spirit of person who dislikes you.
Spirit attachments carry over from past lives also of lovers or enemies who died while trying to kill you. Revengeful spirits remain in your aura and make you underestimate our own power. Ghosts of enemies which you killed in anger, in past lives get attached to your body in intense moments of emotion and make you lose your self-confidence by consistently attacking you with negative thoughts.
Spirits of alive people who you abuse emotionally also enter you and keep talking in your mind like incessant chatter which makes you anxious and restless. But, unlike as shown in television or horror films, the ghosts cannot kill you or eat you physically.
Spirits need to be released into light through learning spirit release therapy or going for a spirt release session. Releasing spirits increases peace of mind and reduces over-weight, cravings and addictions. Diseases also get healed by removing spirit attachments and your own past life personalities who died in moments of anguish.

Removing spirits into light is beneficial work as it cleanses air of negative thinking .A non released spirit is engrossed in thoughts of sadness and sorrow and its energy revolves around a negative focal point. This spirit can enter a body which sympathizes or welcomes it in as happens with people whose parents or lovers die.

If you hold onto a memory of a lover or parent, you force that energy to remain in the same cycle of sadness it died in. But if you detach from the memory, you allow the soul to go on wars with its journey of soul evolution, free of ties and problems of the life which has ended.
Spirits do not need your fear. They are lost souls without a body; which are like beggars standing in rain without a house to go into. They need your help to go into a positive dimension from which they can be reborn in a new healthy body.

Techniques of spirit release are given in my book REDEFINING HAPPINESS, which are researched and proven as safe. I have seen people heled of diseases after spirit release as I am a trained spirit release therapist. Instead of cultivating fear, please help yourself and the lost souls to get freedom from mental torture by sending memories of dead people into sunlight.

This spirit remains sad as long as it remains unreleased. It remains in cycles of revenge and sorrow but it cannot hurt you unless you choose to believe its thought suggestions and hurt yourself.
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MURDER CAN BE KARMICALLY AMENDED ONLY BY GIVING BACK HOMES/HAPPINESS TO HOMELESS PEOPLE

Ghosts are alive consciousness without a  body . Their body has died but consciousness remains alive. Usually, spirits and ghosts get attached as energy to the person who killed them , if death is by murder . However, in a normal routine death, the spirits or ghosts when unreleased stay with family members or with lovers , that is, people who keep thinking about them. Body sharing is likee home sharing for spirits .

The body is the house of the soul. When the body is gone and the soul remains alive, it seeks a house . From an energy perspective, justice can be given to a soul without a  house by providing him or her with a house which was snatched away when it died . Hence, if a soul dies suddenly as in murder or accident, it has to be given back a home to continue with its purpose of life.

When you are responsible for another's death, and that person is not ready to die, you have to give back the space to live which you tool away as a policeman, a criminal or an alcoholic .If you build a real brick house, and give it free to a similar soul or several souls in similar need, you repay your karma energetically on the physical plane . If you do not build a house and the spirits are not released , they will share your body and all the benefits you can give them as the soul always attains justice.Sometimes, when spirits share your body, you lose connection with your own body and the spirit's choices take over your mind.

The connection of the spirit with a human body is through consciousness. The spirits connects to an alive person mentally. The spirit cannot actually hit or murder you physically but the spirit can enter someone else;s body and make that person murder you by controlling his mind. The spirit which may have loved you before death and now stays in your body out of affection can make you mentally distressed , sick and diseased or restless.


Karma plays a role in spirit release which is necessary for you to find happiness by controlling your own subconscious choices . If you have killed someone, you will find happiness only if you take on a life path where you give life purpose back to the person you killed in another body or to several people.

For example, Indian film actor , Salman Khan was arrested for killing people on the street. Karmically, remaining jailed would help him only if he regrets and meditates in the jail to calm down his mind and exhale positive energy. However, if he remains restless, then the soul would not get redemption by being jailed. Karmic payback would include  a life path where he joins a program to build homes for several people, where he promotes welfare of homeless so that the mistake he did by alcohol driving is not repeated because people have homes and do not live on the streets.

It is better to repay karma in the present life than carry over the suffering to the next life . The sooner you repay karma, the easer it is to attain good health and peace of mind with happiness.

Forgiving the self is the first step towards moving on towards God's path . Only when you forgive the self, can you do good work for others ; because to do good, you have to believe you are good and radiate out positive energy with each feeling you focus upon.

Once a person is branded as bad, he becomes badder as everyone around gloat on his being bad. But this person loses his peace of mind and sanity as the soul refuses to stay in a body which thinks it is bad .The soul is always positive in frequency and a positive energy vibration mismatches with a negative thinking pattern. When your soul leaves your body, you feel and behave like a puppet to other people's thinking. The demons control you by making you believe you area  murderer and then making you murder more .

The only way out of this trap of vicious cycle of negativity is to decide to do good for similar souls who you hurt in the past , physically or emotionally, by a conscious choice to heal the self and others.

Also, the spirits which you have killed or who have died in near friends or families have to be released as is covered in the next blog .

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BE AWARE OF YOUR THOUGHTS - THOUGHTS SEND ENERGY WAVES

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Every thought which you focus on has a feeling entailed. The feeling is an electric impulse which is a unit of the soul’s vibration. Your thoughts create your reality.

If you focus on positive thoughts of love and happiness, you will send out vibrations of energy which create the same feelings in your life. If you focus on problems in life, you will find yourself being surrounded by problems on an increasing basis.

Life is a creation of your soul. You create your life yourself by the feelings you focus upon. If you have been used to focusing on problems, your life would be full of problems in the present. You will find problems everywhere around you; and you will find more reasons to focus on problems.

The belief that LIFE IS DIFFICULT sows seeds for life to remain difficult. Your circumstances do not decide the feelings which you focus on. Your choice of which feelings to focus upon decides your circumstances.

Every belief has its pros and cons. For examples, if you believe LIFE IS EASY, you may find that all your needs are fulfilled by your surroundings without enough challenges or career growth. However, a positive belief that LIFE IS EASY would bring more harmony and peace in your life than a belief that LIFE IS DIFFICULT.

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Beliefs are created by repetition of feelings in the subconscious mind. You keep talking to yourself silently the whole day and the belief which you focus upon keeps moving you like an energy cycle.

Hence, to change you life from sad to happy or sick to healthy or difficult to easy, you have to be aware of the feelings which you focus upon.

The more you decide to focus on feeling positive, be it in reality or imagination, the more your life would appear positive to you.

The more you carry over tensions of others; the more you worry about everybody’s problems; the more you complain about the nation; the more you spread negative energy from your core.

Most people are addicted to thinking negatively. If they cannot find problems in their own life, they start worrying about the children’s problems or the nation’s problems. The more they worry, the more they aggravate the energy of problems.

If fire is burning the jungle, just complaining that the fire is burning will not dissolve the fire. You can either take action to quench the fire or you can ignore the fire and walk away. Talking about the fire burning the jungle without taking any action or without detaching away from it, adds fuel to the fire. You thoughts are like petrol which increase positive or negative energies in your life.

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CORRUPTION - IS A RESULT OF A BELIEF THAT GOODS & FOOD BUY HAPPINESS

 Politicians represent society . Corruption on the surface represents corruption hidden in the heart of people ...........

 When the need for fame and power rules over need for happiness, love and good health, corruption reigns over people who seek flattery & praise to love themselves.

Where materialism rules over true love & passion, impotence is a common problem faced by men who live to please others over satisfying their own soul needs.

Women freeze in sex and steal from husbands, where clothes and jewelry become symbols of love over emotional support and respect of individuality

Where children are loved only for getting medals and marks, they are taught corruption by parents who equate love with getting success as seen by an external world...."I will love u if the world praise you" is the thought pattern which breeds corruption.....

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Corruption is rampant in today’s world.  Everyone is complaining about corruption as a hot topic of discussion, problems and gossip.

However, when we complain about the BAD happening in the external world with passion, we fail to look at the soul’s perspective.

No soul wants to be corrupt by choice. Corruption is a denial of self - worth. Every corrupt person feels a lowering of self –esteem and is internally saddened and compromised by the choice.

Corruption is a result of confusion and conflict in the mind of what is important for happiness. The moment you use unethical means to earn money or fame, you deny the efficacy of the legal structure as a satisfying system to address you needs.

Dirt cannot be cleaned from the surface until the reason for dirt is addressed. Water cannot be cleaned by removing the layer of dirt from the top. If dirt is visible on the surface, there are reasons for dirt at the core which have to be changed for the surface to appear clean.

If corruption exists, it means that there are faults in our education system which create a need in people to become corrupt. There are also faults in mass values and beliefs which glorify money and success at the cost of truth, honesty and happiness. If people continue to be corrupt, it is because society allows corrupt people to acquire respect and fame.

Why would corruption exist if nobody bribed? Why would people cheat their conscience if money was not valued over peace of mind?

Instead of grumbling about corruption existing, we, as a society, need to address the reasons about why corruption exists from the root cause.

Corruption in adulthood is the same as cheating in exams in childhood. Children cheat when they are under pressure to get marks. Marks are a sign of success for children even if they do not learn anything in school and pass by cheating. Similarly, money becomes a criteria of success. People become corrupt to earn money under pressure to perform.

There is so much focus on showing off success through jewelry cars and fancy gadgets that people start thinking that success means happiness. Corruption is encouraged by families who desire to maintain a good image in society even when they stay unhappy inside the house.

Corruption in offices is only a part of the problem. Corruption at the soul level exists in several layers. You are corrupt if you cheat your partner and have sex outside the relationship. You may justify it as a need for love which you do not get in the marriage but if you were not corrupt, you would break the bond ethically and allow the partner to move on with clarity that you no longer serve each other’s requirements.

You are corrupt if you eat food which harms your body because you want to please your family members or friends.

You are corrupt if you allow your children to become irresponsible and drug addicts because you were too busy earning money for their happiness. Your goal of giving your children becomes corrupted when you neglect their needs to earn money.

You are corrupt when you tell yourselves that your parents love you deeply when you have severe issues of low self -worth and feel dis-respected often. Self- esteem issues arise from neglect in childhood and have to be often resolved through age regression and inner child healing.

You are corrupt if you have a good multinational job where you do not need bribes but constantly feel compromised and bored. When you chose to sacrifice your soul potential for money, you betray your own soul and attract corruption from others.

You are corrupt if you stay in a non-loving atmosphere and pretend that everything is well so that other people admire you. If you are true to your own soul needs, you would seek to move away from the atmosphere which does not give you respect to search, for a higher, purer consciousness of love where your needs are reciprocated.

You are corrupt if the need for fame becomes more important to you than your need for the happiness for which you sought fame initially. You cannot be happy or healthy if you neglect satisfaction in life and you sacrifice your love, your space and your values in order to remain famous.

Corruption starts at school level and will remain till children have to be forced to go to school. The choice to make children compromise teaches them the need to cheat their own soul needs in order to please the world. If you wake up children when they are in deep sleep in early mornings, you condition them into being unhappy from the moment they get up. The more children stay unhappy, the more they create happiness as a choice of internal dominant focus.

The thoughts you get up with create your reality as co-creators. If you train children to be unhappy, by ritual, you will create corruption and unhappiness in adults to meet those rituals in adulthood.  

Corruption is always justified by people who are corrupt but is always a sin from the soul’s perspective because it leads to long-term denial of soul’s needs of true happiness.

Corruption can be only changed by changing the schooling system so that children focus on being happy from the moment they get up and keep visualizing happiness as their reality in the process of growing up.

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A COURSE IN EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT - ERASE SAD MEMORIES , CLEAR SOUL ENERGY

Reality is what you perceive of a situation. When you don’t remember an event, it doesn’t exist for you. If a negative memory is deliberately erased by manipulating the energy wires holding the memory in the subconscious mind, it vanishes.

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The Course in Emotional Management is a uniquely designed course which helps you connect with your subconscious mind for understanding your core problems and deleting sad memories.

This Course addresses how to access the subconscious mind and understand patterns of thinking which make you feel helpless and act irrationally. The Course covers techniques of Self-Hypnosis which can be used for deleting past sad memories and replacing the subconscious energies with happy feelings for automatically rising to a higher level of happiness in the present.

Attaining happiness is a long-term process but it cannot ever be attained by pursuing success, money or power blindly. Happiness has to be addressed as a goal by itself as this Course signifies. Health and Happiness are synchronized as being healthy is necessary to be happy but it is not possible to be healthy unless you are happy. The release of positive hormones in the body necessary for good health require a focus on feelings of happiness. If Happiness starts dying in life, health automatically starts becoming bad. This Course explains how positive thinking cannot be attained just by rational counselling but requires cleansing the subconscious mind of negative thinking by techniques of energy therapy for transcending negative energies into neutral or positive.

 As this Course helps you access tools of happiness, you will find how optimism, peace of mind and an understanding of inner self are necessary for moving towards happiness in steps.

This book is the first in a series of five books which detail step-wise techniques of accessing, understanding, disciplining and guiding the subconscious needs to attain happiness.  

EXCERPT FROM THE BOOK : A COURSE IN EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT _ MOVING TOWARDS HAPPINESS IN STEPS

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Sadness of the past is transcended into peace in the inner self, by understanding the learning which came from the experience. Difficulties are overcome by a choice of the mind to focus on only the learning underlying the difficulty and releasing the problems encountered in the path. Going through difficulties while remaining optimistic is like the soul’s light walking through a dark tunnel which has to be crossed to reach the destination desired where you attain wisdom or a deeper truth.

Once the hold of the negative memory goes away, it doesn’t cause you stress and it doesn’t create undesirable emotional reactions inside you, when a similar situation again recurs. By erasing sadness accumulated in the mind, you create a brighter past. A brighter past creates a brighter future.

However, there might be a learning attached to this memory. Usually, our subconscious mind holds a negative memory because as a soul, we need to learn some lesson of emotional wisdom from it.

Every traumatic /sad memory would have an emotional lesson, which eventually you would need to learn, to release this negative pattern completely.