HOW TO CREATE A POSITIVE SELF IMAGE

Our identity determines our self-worth, and our ability to ask for happiness Or recieve praise, acknowledgement or love from God or other human beings

A positive self-image can be created by counting our positive qualities instead of focusing on our bad qualities, subconsciously. To feel good about ourselves is necessary to find happiness in our life, as only energies of matching frequencies will stay together.

      Positive energy will increase happiness by feeling positive about self, whereas problems will increase by a constant focus on our disabilities.

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  Initially, a habit of feeling bad about self can be broken by counting ten good things in self as a daily practice.  Changing self-identity to positive increases confidence, and helps in being happy as a part of soul ascension.

      An identity is defined as the way in which we think about ourselves in comparison with the rest of the world. It is our self-image. E.g. I am fat, I am ugly, I am a failure, I am successful, I am average, I am pretty, I am emotional, I am practical, I am confident, I am beautiful, I am intelligent etc.

      Identity depends on internal dominant focus. For example, if a person focuses on a sad feeling, he keeps telling herself/himself constantly - ‘I am sad’. That feeling becomes his/her identity. Overtime, with sustained focus, this person creates a reality where he believes that he is sad/depressed by temperament.

          The negative feeling which we focus on becomes our characteristic. Other people refer to us a sad person or an angry person etc., because we think so about ourselves. Our behavior matches our internal dominant choice of focus. 

 With a negative dominant focus, we notice only that energy within us and around us which confirms our negative self-perspective. Since we pick up information from the world which matches our internal frequency, we are usually able to justify our anguish.

      At the external or conscious level of thinking, we think we have to focus on a problematic feeling because external circumstances force us to, whereas, from an energy perspective, it is the other way round.

          Subconsciously, we perceive the external circumstances as negative because our internal energy balance is negative.

      But our internal energy balance is negative, because at some point in our present or past life, we allowed ourselves to focus extensively on feeling negative. This feeling with the highest energy intensity became our dominant point of internal focus.

     For instance, it is possible that a person became fat at some phase of life, but subsequently, his identity became “I am fat “. Then, his over-weight is maintained because of his subconsciously held negative self-concept of himself. He cannot lose weight because he constantly keeps telling himself that he is fat. He subconsciously believes he is fat and moves his energies such that the internal command is obeyed. His balanced state of being in an over-weight position is maintained by his habits. He wants to exercise less and eat more because his energy focus is that he is fat.

     Change appears threatening because the internal balance is shaken and there is fear of fall. We become habitual to staying with a given set of problems.

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Balancing Body Needs with Spiritual Needs - Attaining Soul Enlightenment

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Happiness and enlightenment cannot arrive by ignoring problems to be happy or by denying that problems exist .Instead of preaching spirituality as being always good and being critical of routines difficulties; happiness arrives by overcoming difficulties with a  positive spirit while participating in the joys of life. Being alive entails consumerism , fashion, love, passion and joys of the creative soul other than work pursuits,  and it is necessary to be aware that facing negative setbacks experienced in family life and relationships, propels life force towards attainment of higher positivefrequencies.

The struggle for happiness, over lifetimes, leads to realization of inner peace and enlightenment . Difficulties create higher wisdom for the spirit who overcomes problems with optimism, hope and feeling peaceful than brooding over the negative setbacks.

Soul ascension to happiness is a process of acquisition and detachment wherein you acquire strength through worldly means to climb the next step on the ladder of ascension ; but detach from the lower ladder  of bad health, deprivation or lack of peace for moving onwards to a higher soul frequency.

Enlightenment is a process which is attained after a  spirit feels fulfilled , loved and acquires peacefulness by choice. Hence, to be happy and emotionally balanced, it is necessary to balance the need to spend on passions with the art of practicing detachment than completely force detachment as punishment on self. As research has proved through applied behavior analysis, positive reinforcement and intermittent rewarding gets better work done from children than negative reinforcement or punishment. The same theory applies while training the self to achieve more positivity . Rewarding the soul and praising small achievements helps more than depriving the self, as was the traditional route to enlightenment .

The balancing of consumerism with spiritualism and detachment leads to inner feelings of peace  while forcing hunger/ emptiness on self leads to  feelings of negativity and helplessness . As contrasted with greed which is akin to over-eating,  disciplined indulgence takes a soul closer to being happier for matching higher positive frequencies of the Creator .

While spiritualism helps you remain detached from over eating /over indulgence, the process of materialism helps you appreciate all that which is created by other souls seeking to rise with positive vibrations.On the ladder of ascension to happiness, it is necessary to spread happiness than compete to be happier than others .

Thus , the process of ascension to enlightenment has to be balanced with family life & Earth’s responsibilities so that you can appreciate and encourage the creative work of other rays of THE CREATOR while moving up to a high positive frequency . Ascension happens when your frequencies completely agree and merge with the creative consciousness, thus brightening the light and knowledge of the Creator.

The movement from negative thinking to positive thinking involves a state of losing balance at a lower negative state of being;and rebuilding balance, at a higher vibration which may be less grounded /secure than a negative, tense balance but is closer to ascension .

TIME & METHOD OF PRAYING DO NOT CONNECT YOU TO GOD

Only the feeling of praying correctly such that you are reaching God, connects you to the vibrations of God... Just following a correct time or rituals only leads to anxiety and sickness of different types... If you need healing, you have to asks for it with purity that you will receive it and then, invest the money or energy required even if the sacrifice is heavy for you . However, just keeping a good time or following an exact method of praying are only games of the mind as God lives in a no space, no time zone. 

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The wrong interpretations of scriptures are so rigid that they prevent a person from praying because the methodology or time is not correct. Instead of helping a soul in evolving, such rigid parameters block the soul’s connection to God.

God represents love, responsibility and justice for all. God does not force you to follow any rule.

Rules are made for your convenience and have to be broken for your convenience just as old structures have to be broken so that new ones can take their place. Rules and rituals which create tension have to be dissolved and replaced with habits which increase inner happiness and harmonize the soul with the body’s needs.

For example, God does not ask you to get up early to pray or work because in modern times, early mornings no longer represent freedom of space. The idea of getting up early in the morning was to be free of disturbances but if a person has not slept well at night, his mind cannot feel at ease in early morning hours. To be positive, it is more important to clear the mind of debris through sleeping well so that the person can get up relaxed and meditate when his mind is clear. With evolving needs, meditation or prayers can be done at all times of the day, on all days. The feeling which passes as energy to God has to be positive even if the prayer holds only for a moment in time. The prayer is effective when it is not constricted by other thoughts like doubts, sadness and worries which pass on as negative energy waves from other people around and block the clear passage to God.

In fact, early morning hours are good for connection to pure celestial light of God if the person imagines the connectivity while being secluded from the world. Lying down helps to create a semi-drowsy state for the mind and activating prayers’ vibrations, while sleeping helps to connect to God in alternate realms, which help in deep healing for the soul. Early morning is also good for astral travel to celestial realms. Self Hypnosis , when applied for healing, applies the same state of concentration by inducing a semi drowsy trance state at any time of the day .

Every practice has a positive intention which has to be imbibed and the rigidity of the ritual discarded as inflexibility creates problems in being able to update the inner subconscious date base with changing times. Rules have to change to find better ways to connect to spiritual realms and get guidance from the positive spirit guides.

Conventional meditation with spine erect helps in developing inner strength while meditation in relaxed postures helps in receiving intuitions and releasing anxieties created by performance pressures. Being thoughtless while meditating helps to improve peace in self and surroundings while praying and chanting create positive vibrations if accompanied with thoughtless state of mind and faith in divine wisdom.

EMOTIONS ARE INSTRUCTIONS TO YOUR BODY ( Energy In Motion )

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This blog is an excerpt from my book A Course In Emotional Management ( edited version 5 ) Your Emotions are Instructions given by your conscious mind to your body

The subconscious mind operates on instructions which pass as electric signals from the conscious mind released through the emotions being focused upon .

 The subconscious mind  is the link between the conscious mind and the soul. 

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Metaphorically, the subconscious mind is like the crew of the ship while the conscious mind is the captain and the soul is the owner of the ship. The soul decides why and where the ship has to go viz.  the priorities of life and the energy frequency of the destination where the person has to reach. The conscious mind thinks on how to take the ship to where it has to reach and the subconscious mind organizes the functions.

The subconscious mind follows the directions of the conscious mind, literally without any questions asked.

The crew of the ship follows the orders of the captain blindly without trying to judge whether he is right or wrong.  Similarly, the subconscious mind follows the feelings focused upon by the conscious mind, as instructions.

The subconscious mind produces in the body exactly the feelings which the person focuses on by conscious choice, as physical manifestations, without caring about whether the instructions produce good health or bad health for the person.

The conscious mind remains happy and the body remains healthy if the person follows the chosen priorities as set by the soul. However, the person makes choices in alignment with the soul’s purpose of life, when the body, mind and soul are aligned.

If the soul, body and mind are not aligned; the person feels lost in track, sick and anxious. Non-aligned decision-making is akin to the owner, driver and engine of the car preparing to go in different directions. In ideal conditions as conceived on heaven, the soul makes priorities of life in a life plan designed before incarnation. The mind desires those priorities to be achieved as ambitions in life and the body helps the mind take action to achieve its pre-set priorities. 

On Earth, the ideal conditions get diluted by practical considerations like society’s expectations, parents’ ideologies, school imbibed cult, work demands etc. which influence adult criterion of financial security or conventional success. If the mind gets in the trap of conditioning on Earth and starts taking over ambitions of society or other people as its own, it starts moving away from its own soul destination. Imitation becomes a greater focus than original thinking. The mind of a person who does not follow his own soul plan remains unhappy and anxious as s/he knows inwardly that the path is lost.

 To move back to being happy, the soul plan has to be followed all over again even if you are far from the planned path.

 For moving back on the soul plan, the conscious mind has to restart attuning with the subconscious mind. There is a slow, consistent rise in happiness and peace of mind as you move back on the soul path from a far away destination. The feelings of being lost slowly subside and your health improves along with a rise in self-confidence.

However, if anxieties continue, it means that you are not attempting to move back on your soul plan and are still in the trap of negative thinking which rules over mass education on Earth.  

A test of whether you are on the soul plan or not is your feeling of well-being and in good health. If there are depressions and diseases in the body, it means that the soul, mind and body are not aligned and the conscious mind has to become aware of its routine thinking to change its priorities of life again and move back to feeling positive as an inner focus.

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Recording Of A Death in Your Subconscious Mind

This blog is a practical exercise from my book A COURSE IN EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT 

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Imagine a death of a close relative in your family or friends. You hear the news and a tremor of low frequency thought-wave/ shock passes over you.

When you visit the place of death, you may feel overwhelmed with sadness and you start crying uncontrollably at the loss. You may suddenly feel that the only person who understood you has gone and you are completely alone in this world.

Some example of the emotions you may experience are: - Startle, shock, sadness, unease in the body, a blood rush, panic, anxiety, despair, trauma, loneliness, helplessness…etc...

(This is the arousal of the sympathetic nervous system. It helps your body react to a crisis situation by creating symptoms in the body which suspend normal activity and enable focus on the crisis situation. Emotional trauma and a physical accident are read as same in energy by the subconscious mind and same symptoms are created when an emotional accident occurs as when a physical accident occurs.)

Imagine yourself after the death, on the next day and a week after the incident. How long would it take you to settle down completely, so that you do not feel any anxiety in your physical body?

(Note-This is the para sympathetic system getting activated. If you keep recalling the memory of the dead person, the para –sympathetic system would not be able to restore your body to normal as you are choosing to relive the crisis situation again and again in your mind. )

Part B – Varying Experience of Emotional Intensity

Imagine hearing about the death of another relative in another city who was not as close to you. How do you feel? Feel inside your body. There may be a little sadness somewhere. You may express sympathy and a look of sadness comes on your face. Think about it.

You may again feel shock, despair and helplessness but to a far lesser degree as you are not directly affected by this death.

 Note -This death has been at an emotional distance. Due to the distance felt as energy space in the mind, there are physiological changes in your body, but to a lesser degree. It also takes you lesser time to forget about it.

So, both the sympathetic and para sympathetic system got activated again, but to a lesser degree.

Distance of time or space lowers the pain.

It may be noted that emotional distance has the same impact as physical distance in the body. If you are detached, in disagreement or unaffected by the person who is leaving or is dead, your pain would be as less as would be with distance of time.

Note – After an emotional accident is over, the choice to reduce your pain and be positive is yours. Detachment and letting go of the spirit of the dead person into light, helps in feeling peaceful and positive again. However, since general society refuses to acknowledge the soul as eternal, there is usually, extreme despair and sadness felt at the death of a person. People keep thinking about the dead person as a loss, almost bound by tradition to feel sad.

This choice to feel negative harms the departing spirit as the more peaceful the soul of a  person is allowed to be after death, the more easily it can transgress to heaven or the next birth .

Also, the need to cry and be sad after death of a person harms your positive soul frequency as recalling the memory of the person is virtually the same as recalling the spirit of the person, subconsciously. Your pain will stay alive because you force the dead person to stay alive through you.

 When you keep feeling the pain of the dead person , negative energy transfers inside you with a focus on negative feelings.

 As long as you keep the crisis alive, subconsciously, the ANS will keep alive symptoms of the accident and you will not feel completely calm again. On the other hand, if you allow yourself to let go of the memory of the dead by sending an imagined spirit form  into the light, detach by cutting your energy cords ( as given at the end of this book ) , you will be free of a negative frequency which is lowering your feeling of being alive. After you detach from the pain of death, your emotional frequency would rise to positive again as an energy uplifting after being suppressed. By accepting that the trauma as over, your ANS will record the external situation as normal and your body will be restored to its normal strength.

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Be Happy Or Walk Out - Exercise on Understanding Chains Of Life

Most people feel chained in life by responsibilities and targets. However, though you may feel negative about having these chains around you, you also need to be aware that you have kept these chains alive for gaining some emotional benefit from these relationships or work ambitions.

To stay positive, it is essential that your focus remains on the benefits you gain from having the chains around you than on the loss of freedom you may experience.

Metaphorically, a stray dog would feel more sheltered if kept as a pet but the same logic does not hold true for a human being. Unlike the dog that has low frequency compared to a human spirit,  the more powerful human soul would not be satisfied with just being maintained with food, clothing and shelter. A human soul needs more than satisfaction than  basic needs to not feel chained.

A human being may feel mistreated if kept as a pet dog/ cat etc.. For example, a woman may feel chained with a husband who  provides food and shelter but abuses her in anger as if she were worthless. Similarly, a man may feel chained in the house or a work environment which does not give him the respect to express his creativity or originality.

Your chains would help you or block you depending on how you expect to be treated and respected.

For instance, a wife or husband feel suffocated in a sexless marriage, where loyalty to the marriage institution may lead to staying sheltered as a pet than being loved or respected as a human vibration .

 If you have chains around you which make you feel more dis-respected than loved, it is possible to break the fear which binds you to stay in chains.

Therapy in emotional management aims at increasing your self -esteem so that you can utilize your soul potential for your highest good. All negative situations which lower your soul frequency can be released for your soul upliftment through meditation, self healing or therapy as explained subsequently.

The following simplified exercise would help you decipher which chains of your life are unnecessary and which chains are necessary. 

In effect, positive chains continue to give you happiness and purpose in life whereas negative chains continue because of tradition.

Only a persistent focus on self-healing leads to breaking of the negative chains that a person feels bound in life which creates a distressed mind and a non-healthy body…

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Learning Task 3 –Redefining Responsibilities By Understanding Positive Intention Of The Soul

Make a list of the chains you feel bound by in your life. For example, chains of relationships e.g. Work, parents, spouse, children etc.

Now, recall whether the chains are there because they make you feel better being with these people than alone.

Think of a situation where these chains did not exist. Would you feel more positive or worse?

 Would being free of the chains make you feel happier or more lonely and direction-less?

Now, think if the chains were made of flowers and not steel, where you feel bound but have freedom to move in your own space without having the fear of breaking off and left alone? Does that make you feel better?

Be Aware That The Chains Do Not Exist Except In the Mind

In your  self- allotted space or silent time, as you review your subconscious choices, create GAP states . Stop thinking of your worries by deliberate mind control . Force a GAP STATE  and smile within yourself for one second or two seconds .

As you keep practicing thoughtlessness in meditation, you would develop training in detachment .   Overtime,  you would move into a spiritual journey of self healing and if needed,  invest in soul healing therapy  .

Keep asking yourself in silent moments if you can allow yourself to feel unchained and yet gain the positive energies which the chains are yielding.

If the chains help you feel better, make it a habit to focus on the positive vibrations which the chains yield in your life than on cribbing about the responsibilities. Complaining and worrying would release negative hormones in your body and harm your health whereas focusing on positive aspects of life would release positive hormones in the body which improve health and happiness.

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Addictions Arise from Following the Rat Race

Imitation is more natural than  obedience in a rat driven race mind-set

You imitate the whole package usually & not just one trait,

When you imitate competitive behavior, you also imitate bad habits hidden under the sheet 

While you adore a successful image of a model, you pick up hypocrisy ,lies & tears subconsciously 

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You are addicted to junk and often blame yourself but you may not realize that you enjoy the state of thoughtlessness which munching aimlessly or smoking or alcohol offers. That same state of thoughtlessness can be more easily achieved through mind control, meditation or visualization but you are afraid to be caught sitting idle by society norms which are addicted by the rat race.It has been established by research that children imitate the behavior of their parents more than follow their verbal advice.

Body language, visual aids, tonality, sounds of environment and the general current of silent energy impacts your decisions more than words spoken.  Energies from other people also pass through as advice given by them for your welfare, but the impact of words is about 7 % compared to 21 % impact of the tone used and 63 % impact of the body language.

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Your subconscious mind is most influenced by its own inner chatter. Advice does not influence you as much as your ownself-talk.Your soul vibrations are influenced by the feelings you automatically focus upon in your daily assessments. Repeated advise by other people influences your vibrations but only if the warning is greater than your own self-assessment.

 For example, you may be addicted to over eating or smoking or something else. Other people advise you that you should quit your addictions as they are bad for health,but you usually, take advice in a detached manner and it hardly creates any disturbance in your usual state of emotional and hormonal balance.

Whenever there is no emotion created when other people advise you, it is not absorbed in the subconscious. (As a vibrational rule, words spoken without any internal emotional energy impact on your base feelings, never affect you.)

 Your subconscious mind has a rational reason why it chooses addictions over safe health norms . Till now, you have liked over eating junk foods or smoking cigarettes but you have not experienced any visible signs of bad health except maybe, fatigue, irritation and restlessness; which go when you eat or smoke a cigarette again.Anyway, work sometimes bores you. So, you may welcome fatigue at the subconscious level. Besides, the pleasure of munching away stress or smoking cigarettes thoughtlessly is far morerelaxing than the irritation which causes the addiction.

For you, avoiding thinking and just enjoying that state of bliss is more important than listening to warnings about bad health. You think it is necessary for you to eat or smoke to relax in the present moment than worry about long-term health effects...

You are addicted to junk and often blame yourself but you may not realize that you enjoy the state of thoughtlessness which munching aimlessly or smoking or alcohol offers. That same state of thoughtlessness can be more easily achieved through mind control, meditation or visualization but you are afraid to be caught sitting idle by society norms which are addicted by the rat race. External addictions are a result of not wanting to confront anyone which can happen if you are caught sitting idle. The more actively engaged you stay, the lesser you think about resolving problems and the lesser you evolve to happiness. Though addictions promise short-term happiness, they lead you away from long-tern happiness by increasing yourself blame tendencies.

Addictions get created in the process of escaping confrontations with society norms, inner conscience and arrogant authorities but confrontations help in soul evolution. Arguments and conflicts lead to awareness that problems exist which can subsequently be resolved peacefully by evolving to a higher consciousness with mutual agreement or rejected with open disagreement.

Using addictions to escape means that you want to avoid hurting others. Escaping disagreements in thinking leads to hurting the self if you use addictions than meditation for escape. All addictions release negative, poisonous hormones in the body.

It may help to heal the need for addictions by being aware that protecting others from hurt is meaningless as over protection can harm in their realization of truth and delay their soul evolution just as protecting yourself from emotional pain by not confronting anybody can make you more negative by continuing to tolerate  a suppressive atmosphere.

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