HOW TO CREATE A POSITIVE SELF IMAGE

Our identity determines our self-worth, and our ability to ask for happiness Or recieve praise, acknowledgement or love from God or other human beings

A positive self-image can be created by counting our positive qualities instead of focusing on our bad qualities, subconsciously. To feel good about ourselves is necessary to find happiness in our life, as only energies of matching frequencies will stay together.

      Positive energy will increase happiness by feeling positive about self, whereas problems will increase by a constant focus on our disabilities.

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  Initially, a habit of feeling bad about self can be broken by counting ten good things in self as a daily practice.  Changing self-identity to positive increases confidence, and helps in being happy as a part of soul ascension.

      An identity is defined as the way in which we think about ourselves in comparison with the rest of the world. It is our self-image. E.g. I am fat, I am ugly, I am a failure, I am successful, I am average, I am pretty, I am emotional, I am practical, I am confident, I am beautiful, I am intelligent etc.

      Identity depends on internal dominant focus. For example, if a person focuses on a sad feeling, he keeps telling herself/himself constantly - ‘I am sad’. That feeling becomes his/her identity. Overtime, with sustained focus, this person creates a reality where he believes that he is sad/depressed by temperament.

          The negative feeling which we focus on becomes our characteristic. Other people refer to us a sad person or an angry person etc., because we think so about ourselves. Our behavior matches our internal dominant choice of focus. 

 With a negative dominant focus, we notice only that energy within us and around us which confirms our negative self-perspective. Since we pick up information from the world which matches our internal frequency, we are usually able to justify our anguish.

      At the external or conscious level of thinking, we think we have to focus on a problematic feeling because external circumstances force us to, whereas, from an energy perspective, it is the other way round.

          Subconsciously, we perceive the external circumstances as negative because our internal energy balance is negative.

      But our internal energy balance is negative, because at some point in our present or past life, we allowed ourselves to focus extensively on feeling negative. This feeling with the highest energy intensity became our dominant point of internal focus.

     For instance, it is possible that a person became fat at some phase of life, but subsequently, his identity became “I am fat “. Then, his over-weight is maintained because of his subconsciously held negative self-concept of himself. He cannot lose weight because he constantly keeps telling himself that he is fat. He subconsciously believes he is fat and moves his energies such that the internal command is obeyed. His balanced state of being in an over-weight position is maintained by his habits. He wants to exercise less and eat more because his energy focus is that he is fat.

     Change appears threatening because the internal balance is shaken and there is fear of fall. We become habitual to staying with a given set of problems.

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