SOUL UPLIFTMENT VS. SOCIAL UPLIFTMENT

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Man is a social animal. Human beings live in societies and seek social upliftment to execute power and gain respect. The rat race starts in childhood when teachers praise the children who get more marks. However, as the children grow up, marks no longer matter in the race for money, and power.

Children are taught that money gets them respect. Hence, as long as they keep earning money, they keep respecting themselves irrespective of whether they get fulfillment from their efforts or not.

If people face blocks in earning money, they feel that they are in difficulties and as soon as the money comes in, their social standing will rise again and the difficulties will go away.

However, when money comes in, several more difficulties come along with it. Money tags along responsibilities, work pressures and abuse from those in superiority. Since money comes in with negative energy, it fails again to bring fulfilment. The race continues and there is demand for more and more money but contentment does not come in, in spite of the increase in money power.

Your social standing may rise as you keep focusing on earning money and fame but you will never feel contented inside, unless you make efforts at SOUL UPLIFTMENT.

Contentment comes in only when your soul frequency rises from a lower dimension of being to a higher realm where you can perceive positivity in the same areas which appeared negative earlier. Soul upliftment is the process of becoming more positive and strong emotionally with every choice you make in life.

If you do not want to feel helpless and trapped in cycles of greed and manipulations, you need soul upliftment, not social upliftment.

You may be a celebrity or you may be a common businessman, but your happiness would depend on how powerful you feel as a person inside yourself. You success depends on whether you are able to take decisions which make you feel content as a being inside the body. Very often, for social upliftment, you make several choices which make other people happy but you feel sad, bored and compromised because you are not feeling happy with the way you are forced to live.

 You may follow all rituals and traditions to please God but happiness will not rise till you connect to God at the soul level and make choices in your everyday life which make you feel empowered and not bound in a cage of social appropriateness. God represents freedom, love and happiness. Till you make choices to  feel free, loved and happy, you are not completely receiving the light of God as your mind is preventing you from receiving wisdom from The Higher Force. Surrendering the mind’s worries to light and feeling freedom and love for some time everyday activates a new cycle in your life which is positive from its source.

It is important to take time off for meditation on a daily basis just as you take time off for physical exercise because you want to be healthy or  look physically smart. Meditation helps release negative energies from the brain and makes you mentally smart. Forcing yourself to stop worrying about everyday problems and just surrender your being to feel pure light travel through yourself helps in removing thoughts stuck in chains of traditional conditioning. Consciousness evolves when you allow yourself to meditate and be free from divisions of caste, creed or religion. Everyone is same in God’s realms and it is necessary to feel the Oneness with divine energies to activate your inner potential to find true contentment.

Man has been stuck in cycles of greed and doom. Where greed stops, doom will also stop.

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Soul upliftment is not about helping the poor as those who are poor today, become as greedy and selfish when they become rich, as was proved by the French Revolution. (Royalty was eradicated because it was corrupt but corruption did not stop when the common man became king either.) The very nature of the human being has to evolve from being animal like to being God like for the soul to uplift itself from traps of self-created chains of illusions. Social upliftment does not help you make powerful but soul upliftment does. 

Through meditation, you become thoughtless and new power comes in from the gaps of thinking,  which being thoughtless creates. You take in life force from the Creator’s pure, unconditioned being and generate inner power which radiates from inside you and changes your core to being positive. Meditation makes you healthier and happier as social upliftment never can.

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Soul Evolution vs/ Soul Devolution – Happiness vs. Helplessness

Soul evolution is the process which is necessary to attain peace and happiness in life. Soul evolution happens through spending time on being in silence with your inner self, meditation, walks, naturopathy and exercise. Your soul energy heals when you make choices to understand your soul needs, your health improves, abundance rises and you feel supported by God. As you keep rising in soul frequency, your connection with the Creator re-opens. You are able to generate more life force and your inner capacity to overcome hurdles and create joy improves.

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Happiness for the soul is not the same as attaining success on Earth in terms of earning money or power or fame. Money, power and fame are illusions created by dark forces to trap souls in cycles of misery where they keep searching for contentment but keep running after battles of success. Money, power or fame , directly , do not lead to soul evolution or happiness. Catching the nose from behind is unnecessary effort and does not always help when the nose can be caught easily from the front as well. 

A person who is very rich and arrogant can be miserable inside. A soul whose levels of peace are low cannot be an evolved soul. An evolved soul focuses on being content, healthy and peaceful by choice.

Where there is no soul evolution, peace and happiness erode/vanish with time. The person degenerates in health and loses hope in life. A quest for wisdom is replaced by contentment with compromise. The soul who does not evolve, automatically devolves.

Devolution of the soul means going back to a lower level of quality of existence. You become unhappier because only when you feel crushed by difficult circumstances of life. Difficulties are energies of negative frequencies and can be overcome by feeling peaceful, learning to detach from unnecessary ambitions and finding happiness through different avenues of being. If you remain stuck with one goal of life which your parents or teachers conditioned into your mind, you cannot evolve as a soul with awareness of his /her own inner needs. If you escape difficulties by using alcohol or drugs or prostitutes, you suffer more, overtime and may be reborn as an animal in the next life; wherein you have to solve a much simpler set of difficulty.

You either evolve or devolve as a soul. If you do not rise to a higher level of peace, happiness, health and contentment in the same life; you will devolve to a lower grade of existence where soul tests are simpler.

For example, a man may be born as a dog, cat, ant or a tree in his next life. Typically, you become the animal whose dominant nature pervades over your senses while being a human being. For example, if you feel starved all your life for a flow of love, you may become a camel in the next life where you hoard water (water symbolizes a flow). Similarly, if you have sex with anyone who gives you a little attention or money, you may become a dog who is loyal to anyone who feeds it something. If you kill people emotionally or physically, for power or money, you may become a tiger. Similarly, if you kill people while looking after a tribe, like a robber does, you may become a lion. All animals have a bigger struggle for survival than human beings but their emotional lessons are much simpler.

Most human soul fragments reincarnate as animals, birds or plants in their next life to complete a soul lesson of emotional contentment which is left incomplete in the human life where the mind is preoccupied with other things.

You can also be reborn as a human being in past time. For example, you may die in 2015 A.D., but be reborn in 1920 A.D. or even in 3000 B.C. You can be reborn at any-time where your karma has been left incomplete and you have to complete some soul lessons before you can attain happiness in any future life.

Karma recycles. People who have been very arrogant in one life usually have to live as poor people or in some sickness where they have to accept charity with insults from others. Arrogance is transcended into positive energy by allowing arrogant people to insult you with a detached attitude. The more you become negative when insulted, the more your karmic debt increases. Similarly, if you have been a dacoit, you will be cheated in another life. 

Largely speaking, abusers have to become victims in another life to repay karmic debt and rise to happiness. However, happiness comes through detaching from abusive people and letting go of the benefits they offer by accepting a more peaceful life by choice.

Happiness does not come by abusing others, bullying people and taking away all the rewards for yourself. You get punished by diseases, sickness and other mis-fortunes coming in your life till you learn to detach from money, power and fame and work with a need to evolve your soul to a higher level of peace and contentment.

More of these concepts are covered in my book:

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LET LOVE RULE YOUR DECISIONS OVER FEAR

Choices of life are made in fear or love

However, focus on fear multiplies more of the same

It is better to choose to love than choose fear of the worst 
That which you focus on will manifest through energy waves multiplying 

Fear is an illusion created by the dark waves of matter which block creation of the new, 
Sometimes hurting others is necessary for their evolution and taking leaps of faith is needed to learn how to fly upwards on happiness, 

You will be reborn with same problems till you choose to change your circumstances by detachment from fear of hurting others

Several people choose to stay unhappy because of fear of hurting others , or breaking traditions.

You cannot choose to stay unhappy now and expect to be happy in the future as energies multiply by inner focus, irrespective of the work you do outside.  All work requires some sacrifice of pleasure , be it office-work, exercising or cooking; but if long run gain is more, the sacrifice can be ignored and the gain focused upon.

For example, when people stay together because they love each other, there is pleasure and understanding in the relationship which makes gains greater than the sacrifice involved in staying together. However, if people stay together in fear of hurting the other because they once loved each other and cannot break promises now, it is a trap of negative energy cycle and would not allow the souls to float upto being happy ever. Feelings seek to repeat themselves irrespective of whether it is good or bad for the person involved. Sacrifice is involved in any work but if the sacrifice leads to greater pleasure in the future, it helps to increase positive energy in life; however, if the sacrifice is done out of fear and does not lead to increased happiness in the future, it is a trap of a negative energy cycle.

 Similarly, when people sacrifice meditation, love  or self-healing  to work for earning money , at all costs; it is a trap of desperation as the focus remains on feeling tense or deprived in the present. Focus is on loss and manifests more of the same feeling in one form or another. Negative energy creates worries of misfortune and stays alive by increasing expenditures. Where scarcity remains a focus, it keeps manifesting itself in newer forms and the sacrifice done out of fear of not having enough, in effect, never leads to contentment.

Negative energy moves in neurological circuits in the mind which needs to be broken by a  choice to not sacrifice. To be happier in the future, any work needs to be done with a detached or happy attitude or left undone, as inconsequential . 

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Test- Operate – Test – Exit – How Do You Decide You Are Loved?

 You dont fall in love just once,

You can fall in love again and again,

As your thinking changes, your needs change,

Love requires sacrifice of ego for oneness to be

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The modern world is obsessed with seeking evidence for every phenomenon.

People seek to test emotions like love, commitment, intelligence and God before deciding to invest energies.

 However, the criterian of what evidence means varies with the processing speed of the brain of each person, upbringing , values, beleifs, conditioning and the perceptual abilities of the sense organs.

There is a procedure called TEST- OPERATE- TEST – EXIT used subconsciously by each one of us for taking decisions. For example, there is a TOTE for food, which helps you decide when you are full and when you are hungry. The TOTE differs for fat people and thin people; that is why fat people continue to feel hungry when thin people feel fulfilled. Similarly, there is a TOTE for trust .Some people trust instantly while others keep testing in suspicion. Likewise, there is a TOTE for disappointment. 

Some people realize a job is disappointing and leave in a day while others go on working for years before they can quit. There is a TOTE for almost every aspect of life.

If we have clarity about our T.O.T.E, we would feel less helpless about other people’s behaviors as each person’s T.O.T.E is different.

For example, if a person says ‘I LOVE YOU “- what will make you believe or disbelieve him or her? For an unmarried person, love represents understanding, sex and having fun together. If a person supports your thinking even if superficially, is willing to attend parties with you, takes you around for movies, eating out, and is sexually loving and desirable, you would most probably decide it is love.

However, for a married person, love also would mean economic support as married people have to take financial decisions for their survival. If one person is to lavish in spending while the other person believes in being frugal or careful about money.

 If there is shortage of money, the love relationship would come under test. The relationship may survive if other factors involved compensate for problems in money matters but would create severe distress if money is short always.

For a person with children, love would also mean agreement on upbringing of the children. 

Relationships with in-laws and parents would start affecting the love relationship. A person would feel loved if she or he gets support in family environment and in public.  If the man is organized and the woman is relaxed, love would come under test again as each would feel his way is the best; while the other is being careless. The person who is dominating may be emotionally rude and hence harm others’ self-confidence and the other partner may feel more often, suffocated or hurt than loved. The person who is relaxed may be indifferent to money matters or cleanliness which may irritate the other . 

If an agreement can be reached, the relationship would be harmonious but if the differences become too deep, love would feel threatened. The first impact of differences in thinking is on sexual compatibility. If sex dies out in a relationship, it means that there are too many differences in thinking which have to be addressed as a priority.

Hence, a married person with children would not feel loved by the same criteria as an unmarried person would. The person who appears very attractive to an unmarried, single man may appear as careless and clumsy to a homemaker. Similarly, a woman who seems sexy and desirable to an unmarried man may appear as selfish and greedy to a financer.

Love changes with time, circumstances and needs of people. Thinking changes as we evolve over difficulties of life , and as our thinking changes, our requirements of feeling loved change.

Loyalty is usually a test of love. If there is a need to be disloyal to a partner, it indicates disagreements in thinking. You would seek sex outside only if you do not feel understood or reciprocated in the ways you want with your partner. Disloyalty can be forgiven if a mutual consensus can be reached between the couple. However, if there is a need for avoiding the partner or cheating on the partner on a continuous basis, it means that the relationship has ended emotionally and you live together like old furniture which has been bought and is too expensive to discard.

It is better to break up the relationship if loyalty is not possible than cheat or avoid contact because lying to another would harm your own inner vibrations as you would lie only in fear of yourself or the other getting hurt. Where fear rules, love cannot survive just as when night rules, sunlight dies out.

Fear and love are opposite energies. There are ways of meeting responsibilities to each other by remaining friends than needing to stay married while desiring other sexual partners. If you stay together because you do not want to hurt yours or his family, you are doing injustice to society,  as you are preventing openness and evolution of consciousness where freedom of space and true love need to thrive for more people to believe in happiness and God.

Mistakes happen but if they keep happening, it means that the problem is arising due to a need in evolution. Just a s toddler falls a few times while learning to walk, but attains his balance later, a couple in love may stray outside for sex or love before they understand they need each other to be happy. However, if the toddler never attains balance, it means that there is a problem in his growth. Similarly, if the couple can never be loyal to each other, it means there is a problem in their soul evolution to oneness. True love means one sexual partner and a need for developing understanding with that one such that both evolve in thinking with single mindedness in spirit as they overcome difficulties together.

Test-operate-test- exit means that if the operation is not successful, you quit the experiment. But, if the test is successful, you improvise it till you attain the perfection of understanding you seek in each other.

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JUST EARNING LOTS OF MONEY CANNOT BE THE GOAL OF YOUR LIFE

 If you want happiness in life, find a purpose of being alive,

Find satisfaction in some work you like and pursue that work to increase feeling nice,

Use money as a survival requirement but do not make choices just to survive

Use your body and mind to help others in ways where your contribution is dignified

Make decisions in life such that money remains the secondary goal and your main aim remains to find love, peace and satisfaction in everyday life

In today’s world, every problem is blamed on money. It is presumed that all problems of life can be resolved if we have money to buy everything we need.

The presumption being that buying /shopping/ eating out/ spending money on relaxation would help resolve critical issues of life by enabling running away from problems for some time.

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However, money is not a solution but only a tool which helps reach a destination. The destination can be escape from a problem which is a temporary solution or permanent healing of the problem which requires training skills in emotional management.

If your goal of life is to earn lots of money, you will always be in problems. You will always keep craving for more. Your life will never be easy or content. You will have health problems or work problems and there will always be a need to earn more.

A focus on just earning money leads to suffering.  Money is the energy of the lower chakras. It is okay for poor people to just focus on earning money till they become comfortable in life. If the focus on money remains after a level of comfort is reached, it leads to great stress and negativity. Health problems rise if people remain stressed because of money problems which are illusory for the soul. Your level of intelligence and evolution rises, your focus needs to shift to other goals which are of higher order chakras .

Kalyug has come because people kept focusing on money over everything else. There were increases in manipulations and murders only for having a secure house and car for life.

But, the house and car never lead to happiness, peace, passion, love or contentment. Craving never ends with earning money for money.

Money, by itself, creates a need for more money. The more you earn, the more you spend and the more you need to earn.

As your incomes rise, your expenses also rise but contentment does not come in. You miss out on the very feeling of satisfaction which you desired in the first place,

People spend huge amounts on insurance and hospital bills when medical science has proven inadequate to solve any health problems. Soul lessons have to be learnt and applied for health problems to be resolved. Just having money to pay hospital bills will not make you healthy or wise.

There is a great desire to have money to buy cars which leads to stress. In Crowded streets, of under-developed countries where traffic jams make life feel suffocated, cars create more problems for mass movement.

In the west, where streets are empty and public transport is poor, buying cars makes sense. But in the second and third world, where population is centered as bee hives in crowded places, a desire to buy cars leads to over trafficking, time wasted in hell and soaring levels of anger in subdued minds.

Instead, metro trains and comfortable, spacious public transport can be invested upon. Or traffic jams can be used for practicing meditation in free time to stay positive.

Money is needed to buy houses.  People remain stressed because they have to pay house loans. Houses can be lived on economic basis. It is possible to find affordable houses on rent. In highly developed countries, houses are bought on installments. Yu don’t need to own everything you use to have self-respect. It is not necessary to have your own car, your own house or your own helicopter.

If you are the President of the world and you have to rescue people in emergencies, you can have more resources at your disposal. But, as a common man there is no need to stay negative because you cannot afford your own luxuries. You can enjoy a good life by sharing with love and compassion.

There are paths to happiness in learning sharing, compassion , in substituting money needs with nature given gifts; like walking instead of using cars where possible, spending routine time of mental and physical exercises, spending time on breathing natural air, eating vegetarian food, meditating in free time , enjoying silence, giving love with loyalty, living in contentment.

Living in craving for more never satiates. You have to create the energy of feeling satisfied in your present to feel satisfied in your future. Energies multiply with focus. Whichever feeling you focus upon by choice you will create. Hence, investment of time and energy needs to be on learning how to feel positive. When you choose to stay in peace, energy cycles of peace and happiness are created in your life.

Once you activate cycles of peace, only those people can walk in your life who can increase your peace.

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MIRACLES - CONTROVERSIES IN HEALING

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ANY HEALING WHICH CANNOT BE EXPLAINED OR REPEATED CAN BE A PLAY OF DARK FORCES BECAUSE IT OVER-RULES EVOLUTION OF HUMAN CONSCIOUSNESS.
Solving immediate problems without evolving to a higher consciousness  is like cheating in an exam to pass the test without learning the lessons involved.


Everyone prays for miracles in life but few understand that miracles are a tipping point where soul frequency has to shift to anew cycle of thinking. Just as water turns into vapour by temperature rising, soul consciousness evolves by rise in vibrational frequency. The miracle is meant to increase your faith in God. It is not a short cut or escape by which your problem is resolved but you conveniently continue to  be the same old negative self. 

We are brought up in a way where we expect happiness to come only as a miracle because we assume that happiness cannot come in routine life where we have to compromise to survive.

Problems may be different but exist in each person’s life. In some people’s lives, problems seem to arise from every corner of existence; whereas, in others, there are specific areas of problems.

However, miracle healing is welcomed and search ed for by most.

There are miracle healers all over the world. India has several saints working as miracle healers who sacrifice their own material life to serve the masses.

Yet, humanity, as a race is not evolving. Happiness is reducing in everyday life while depressions, anxieties and stress related problems are rising. If the saints who sacrificed their homes to help humanity were succeeding, the levels of overall happiness would have risen.

But, people are getting more disillusioned than aware.

The problem with miracle healing is that it does not help the soul evolve to heal itself.

God is like a good parent who guides and helps but does not solve the problem. If someone solves a problem, without your wisdom rising, it can be a trap to pull you into a vicious circle of blind faith and negative thinking.

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Difficulties rise to help the soul change his or her thinking to improvise a better way of existence. But, miracle workers cure problems by energy transmissions without addressing the inner conflicts in the person which created the problems.

For example, some saints are  famous for bringing dead man alive. 

However, the solution defies God's laws of death and life. Also, this solution overrules karmic factors, does not allow free will to live or die in war or in pressures of everyday life , does not address whether the man who revived became a better human being than before or worse. Did he rise over sickness for life or did he remain depressed by temperament? Was he able to solve the problems he was in which made his soul choose to decide to leave the body?

The solution may have used help of dark forces who answer prayers made in desperation to subjugate saints seeking popularity over wisdom. It is possible that another spirit was put in this dead man’s body and he was declared alive. It is possible that a demonic entity entered the man and used his body to spread blind belief and distress than faith and wisdom.

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God does not over-rule free will. The soul is eternal. Solving one problem by magic does not help the spirit evolve to a higher consciousness, which is necessary to solve problems in the long run. Miracles are blessed only if your karmic ebt is over and the miracle leads to more happiness and peace in your life.

If the miracle just solves an immediate problem, saves a life which is sad or cures a diseases , it over-rules the fact that the soul is eternal and every problem has a lesson which needs to be learned before your karma gets over. A miracle which does not increase happiness or positive energy in your life on an everyday babies is usually performed by a  dark force to convince you of blind faith. A miracle can be a reward if your soul lessons are over or it can be cheating if a saint solves your problem without you changing yourself to be a better human being .It is like a  child asking a parent for solving a test paper without making any effort himself or herself. 

Every physical problem has an emotional lesson attached. There is no escape from emotional responsibilities if you want to rise to happiness in all aspects of your life. Local healing does not lead to holistic betterment. A miracle may cure your back ache for some time but if you are having back aches because you take too much financial stress, the problems of having financial problems would remain and trouble you in other ways.

Similarly, a miracle may get you a child but it will not train you for good parenting. Your child may remain unhappy unless you get the child through your own meditation and self-healing and become a calmer person in the process.

Miracles get activated if faith is absolute; but problems return in other forms you’re your soul consciousness evolves.

MIRACLES ARE USEFUL IF THEY CAN BE EXPLAINED BY THE VIBRATORY LAWS OF THE UNIVERSE - THE LAW OF CREATION, THE LAW OF KARMA AND THE LAW OF ATTRACTION AND PRODUCED ALL OVER AGAIN BY APPLYING  THE SAME PRINCIPLES .

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Using Forgiveness - Techniques of Evolution Towards Happiness

The place is an illusion, its your inner space which counts
The face is an illusion, its the soul which connects,
Life is an illusion, its the energy which evolves ,
Holding On to Sorrow is like holding on to thorns in the hope they will become flowers,
Moving on means letting go of that which serves you no more in making you happier

Forgiveness is considered a necessary technique by all spiritualists and healers for those on the path of peace, happiness and enlightenment.

However, forgiveness is usually mis-interpreted. Forgiveness does not mean that abusers have to be pardoned and allowed to continue abuse. Forgiveness only means that you remove the negative energy of the abuser from inside your auric field so that the energy of the abuser does not reduce your positivity.

There are techniques of forgiveness such that the energy of the abuser can be removed from your aura and you detach from the person.

Just saying mentally that you forgive another person is useful only if you do not lose your positive power by forgiving a negative entity. However, if you feel crushed an s a soul because you are told to forgive than remain angry, you have to learn how to use techniques of emotional management to apply forgiveness to help you and not harm your positive soul frequency.

Some methods of using forgiveness include:

1. 1.       The Energy Cord Cutting Technique
2. 2.       The Film Making/ Observer technique
3. 3.       The Crushing Ant Technique
4. 4.       The Spirit Release Technique
5. 5.       Hyonodrama ( Telepathic Talking )
6. 6.       Understanding Perceptual Positions
7. 7.       The Bird’s Eye View _ Aligning with a Higher Consciousness
8. 8.       The Practice of Developing Thoughtlessness
9. 9.       Anger Management Techniques

A brief Description of two of these techniques is given below. However, to use each, as may be required in several different contexts, you would have to read my books on the link below:

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The books explain the spiritual science aspect of these techniques along with detailed steps. The following techniques are summarized from my book - REDEFINING HAPPINESS (a soul’s Perspective) and/or go to a hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner etc.

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The Energy Cord Cutting Technique

Imagine yourself in a dark tunnel. Imagine the other person on the other side of the tunnel. Imagine a rope between you and the other person. Cut the rope. (You can imagine an angel coming and cutting the rope or you). See you soul coming back to you from that person. Feel that person’s soul leaving you an integrating back with his own body. Feel yourself becoming double in aura size as your soul comes back. See the person going away far from you. Imagine yourself after one week, smiling and relaxed. The person’s energy would not affect you as much anymore even if s/he remains in your house. Now, from a detached position, forgive the abuser. You can repeat the process as many times as you need. Thee person will not go from your life unless karmic debt is over. However, each time you cut the energy cord, the negative energy control will reduce. You can also rebuild a new energy cord whenever you feel a need for anew attachment.

The Film Making/Observer Technique

Imagine the situation which created anger as a film. See yourself being abused as the victim or child and the other person as the villain or abuser. Judge from a viewer’s perspective if there is anything the child needs to learn. If yes, see the victim obeying the boss and check if the abuser’s behavior improves in the second scene. If it does not, then realize that the victim is not responsible for the pain in the abuser’s life. Now, make another film where the victim does not obey the abuser and remains detached or walks away.  Now, check whether the victim is in a better position far from the abuser? Now, from the more powerful position, let the victim forgive the abuser.

These techniques can be combined and adapted to individual needs.

While doing any self-healing, always maintain a practice of remaining in silence for ten minutes every day.  Forget all your chains of life while in this thoughtless state. Breathe in golden light and exhale tightness from different parts of the body. Smile and Thank God while remaining in this illusion of being in space and peace. As you practice the illusion, it will change your reality to bring more freedom and peace in your life over time.

You would find more on the benefits of using thoughtlessness as a meditation technique in the book :

http://www.amazon.com/HOW-BE-HAPPY-DIFFICULTIES-Happiness-ebook/dp/B00QNJ9EB8/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1431339994&sr=1-1&keywords=swati+shiv