DIVORCE IS A BLESSING - LOVE AND BETRAYALS

Love happens. We do not intentionally fall in love. Yet, when it comes, it takes over the whole being.We only want to be with that person. We want to be touched with passion, kissed, caressed, adored, wanted, needed, indispensable. In essence, love creates in us a need to be alive for someone other than only us.

It gives reason to live other than performing , studying, working , getting marks or making money. Love allows us to be, as distinct from doing. It allows us TO BE as distinct from TO BE SOMETHING . We can just feel joy in ourselves as we feel our inner soul. It makes us feel as if we are accepted even if we are nothing more than who we are.

Love overwhelms because of the support it offers in a world where we feel alone , otherwise. Suddenly, there is someone who understands, who respects, who cares, acknowledges, who finds being with us fun.

Love happened first in my life when I was 16. Till 15, I used to be a fat, ugly, clumsy girl who was good in studies but could not play any sports, who sang badly , wore specks and did not talk much. My mother used to scold me the whole day that I had no friends , that i did not play, that i was only reading novels all the time, that I liked watching TV that I messed up and dirtied the house, that I did no housework properly etc. etc. At 16, I lost weight and I got a haircut. Suddenly, people started finding me pretty. I could not play sports but I could go on picnics and I could dance, laugh, sympathize, offer an understanding shoulder.

But, my mom was the same and I felt non-understood all the time. Then , a man fell in love with me or so he claimed. He flattered me a lot , and was completely opposite my mom. I suddenly started feeling understood and cared for.
He used to stay in a different city and we could not met more than once an year for more than 3 days maybe.We used to write long letters to each other those days , pouring out our heart. My letters were mostly cribbing that I wanted to be rescued. His were that he felt non acknowledged by the world and he wanted to prove himself. There was sharing of pain and there was passion.
There was hope that life would be wonderful if I could marry him. I did not think that he was not settled financially, that he had left his studies, that their family business was on his shoulders but everybody cribbed that he was irresponsible.

Though, when I met him for more than 3 days, we used to fight . I used to feel that he did not understand actually as he said he did . He was absorbed with his friends , liquor, partying and rarely found me interesting company alone. But, he praised me in his company and nobody else praised me like that. So, I used to feel that maybe he does care. I was always a loyal person and it was terrible cos we used to stay far. My parents found out and they were furious with me. There was more scolding than ever before. I had to almost run from my house if I had to meet him , and hear abuses the whole year because I met him.

Anyway, hope was alive. My parents were very angry with me when I decided to marry him. They thought I should do post graduation since I had performed well in graduation in economics honours. But, I wanted to escape from them. I wanted to work but my father was against that as he wanted me to study. Anyway, my mother thought that I should get married than them getting defamed because I had an affair. My father always listened to her.

So, amidst much disapproval, I married him. Suddenly, he changed after marriage as his family got involved. He wanted monetary help as his family business was in problems. He did not ask for dowry but all the money that we received in the wedding was spent on him. In one week of marriage , I had realized that I was in a worse situation than in my house. There were his friends demanding parties, him fighting in the house, a joint family, his parents cribbing and not letting me do any work in the house. They wanted him to take me and go abroad, leaving the family business to his younger brother.Suddenly, my own family started appearing more loving and welcoming.
He went abroad. I came back to my parents house. My mother expected me to leave soon but he did not get a family visa. he used to send me money in the first year of his earning and I was thrilled because I had money  for the first time In my life. I finished my post graduation in fashion designing but he said that I should learn typing as being a secretary was a good job in the gulf. I did start learning shorthand though my parents held that I should do MA in economics. In all that conflict, he called me finally , on a visiting visa. I thought I could stay with him but he did not have a regular house  or a family visa. I did not find a suitable job probably because I preferred waiting for him, being with him and cooking for him than being a salesgirl. That four months is the only good period I remember with him, at the end of which I got pregnant.

I came back to India but he stopped sending money as he said he was saving. I had no money in my pregnancy and my mother cribbed about the medical bills. Then, my son was born with a forceps delivery.
He had a wound in his head and demanded attention. I got completely absorbed in him. My mother was even more angry because I did not work as she used to , for a living. And, she kept cribbing that I had no qualification as I was not an MA, as she was. My husband did not call me as he did not get a family visa. When I pestered a lot, he said I wanted to be abroad and use him to go abroad. That was after he had stayed with my mom for a month during childbirth and heard all her opinions about me.
Suddenly, my mom was cribbing and my husband was cribbing that I was a burden. How energies multiply with focus ! I was focused on my mother's abuse and my husband became another her.

Well, seven years later, we divorced. My son was found autistic and his treatment was very expensive. The financial problems kept increasing . My parents kept supporting and kept cribbing. Then, mu mom came and stayed with us in our house abroad and felt severely insulted by my husband who was doing financially okay by then. He was insulting to me all the time and to my son also. But, he abused my parents for spoiling me. He had started having affairs and he wanted divorce. Sex had died between us after my son was born. I tried to approach but he never found me interesting. I didn't want to go back to my mother's house. But, he harassed my parents to call me back saying that they had thrown their burden on him.Physical beatings started for every small argument. whereas earlier he used to make big claims that it was wrong to beat women. he said I made him beat me but I know I did not understand why he said that because he barely gave me money. He gave once a month for house expenses and I never asked him more cos he cribbed so much. He thought he was rich but I never felt abundant as my father used to pay me pocket money for my few personal needs. Money was always less for my son's therapy but he spent on partying and gifts for his family.I was completely torn apart and disillusioned.  Once he agreed for a monthly maintenance for my son's therapy, I agreed for a mutual consent divorce.

I came back and took up a separate house which my parents found next to their house. I started learning hypnotherapy, past life therapy, Reiki etc. in the hope that it would heal my son. The doctors kept saying that autism is incurable. My day and night went in his therapy and trying to heal  him somehow. I had some money which went in my spiritual courses and I started taking clients. The little that I earned from my clients got reinvested in more courses because healing needed was in depth and I wanted strong foundations.We had to take help from my parents financially again as my husband's alimony was not enough. My son's therapy was also very expensive and everybody was keen that he gets well. My mother was very worried because she thought I would make him like me. My parents were keen on taking up as much therapy as could be. But, improvement was very slow. They only spent money but did not give him the environment he needed to heal therapeutically. We had constant arguments and I felt I was failing in helping him because I did not have money to shift away from my parents and no husband to support me. He could not learn to speak or write independently, and money just kept getting invested.

Then, my second husband came about. There was something supernatural in all this. My first marriage started breaking after I visited Sairam of Puttaparthi for my son. In the Bangalore camp, I did not see the man in photos. I saw a golden alien with a bright halo of light around his head who kept looking at me and my son. I thought that everyone in the camp thought that Baba was looking at them individually , but over time and several coincidences made me realize there was  soul connection.When my second husband walked into my house the first time, I saw the same halo of light around his head. After that, I never saw it again though but he spoke very spiritually.

It was a soul attachment which I did not know existed then. The second marriage brought in hopes of happiness again. My husband again flattered me when my family thought I was nuts.Passion was intense and he seemed to love and accept my son. But, overtime, I realized that he was not always the same. He was more in love with my body than my soul. Also, he became very insulting to my son and was very upset that I spent so much money on his treatment. Since, we lived in the house next to my parents, my mother cribbed a lot to him about my shortcomings. He did not abuse me directly but he took it out on my son. We shifted after two years of marriage to another city. So, I lost the house I used to take clients in. there were severe financial problems again.  In three years, he asked me to choose between him and my son. He wanted me to send my son to my first husband. I refused. The marriage broke.
The coincidence was that Sai Ram of Puttaparthi died in the same month as my second marriage broke . I had no idea that he was sick till I saw the internet news that he had died. I was surprised. I had felt that my son was going up to become purified. I could sense a leaving of a golden light at the moment he died and I went with my son's soul because I  could not let him go alone. We moved for three days  as if we were in Shiv's eternal fire and I kept chanting Buddham Sharnam Gacchamiwhich I never have before that moment or after that moment.I went with my son into a golden ring in a  spiral of light and he said that he would come back with me when the time was right. But, I cried a lot that night because there was  a death experience at the feeling level.
In my personal life, I was again shattered. My family again were proved right that the man would ditch me. When I came back this time, there was no separate house . Difficulties were more but I had to evolve above them as crying did not solve any problem. There was no choice but to smile in acceptance of the IS and force myself to deliberately create peace in me to stay sane.

Love, promises, passion, hope, understanding all vanished. The only reason I still hoped  is because I started meditating a lot. I wrote three books on the basis of my intense studying of behaviour analysis and spirituality in order to help my son. I had done a course in teaching English for non natives to teach in Muscat. Then, after my son's diagnosis, I was advised to do courses on training myself as  a special educator in autism. I had to train myself or it wasn't possible to help him heal. But, just a psychological analysis was not enough.I had to understand why his soul had planned such a difficult life and how to convince it to heal. Then, I did around thirty courses in life between life therapies, spirit and soul healing over a period of three years. It was difficult to get out of love. A process which helped me a lot is ENERGY CORD cutting, which is given in my books IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS and REDEFINING HAPPINESS.
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Overtime, my relationship with my parents came in peace.I could find ehaven where I earlier found hell. The conflicts vanished as I stopped arguing over completely disparate perspectives. My daughter was a delight to her grandparents. Life smoothened. I meditated a lot more to spread positivity in my house and to help my son heal . The positive energy spread all over as my calmness increased.

I don't think I could ever have been happy again or in peace as I am now if I did not use these self healing techniques. I also helped several other people heal from relationship issues, low confidence, concentration problems, asthma, depression , spondilities etc. In three years, I did around 500 sessions of past life therapy and spirit release. I write books because I wanted the therapies and awareness to spread. I also wanted the education system to change as I found it obsolete in dealing with the emotional or professional demands of adult lives. My son' s therapeutic courses and training made me study education processes in detail and their efficacy was constantly in question

As I healed myself from emotional pain,I threw away all old pictures and all old memories. The only connection with my two husbands was my kids, but I completely became immune to them . I am now so indifferent that I find them complete strangers. But, I still hope to find true love as God tells me that dreams exist.

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Myths About Sex

Sex is an integral part of human existence. Though, it is considered a sin by several religions and it is prohibited to talk about sex openly, it is also recognized as the only tool of continuing progeny and an expression of love. Both children and love are important lessons of soul evolution because they call for sacrifice of priorities.

Sex which is not accompanied with true love or a ritual representing true love,  is considered a sin because only love makes the soul happy. The soul is an energy being and sex is valuable to the soul if it makes the soul experience the energy of love.  Sex without feeling loves promises happiness like a drug addiction does but it does not lead to contentment as it is a physical act without a positive energy interaction.Anything which promises happiness but makes the soul feel empty of happiness is considered as sin from the soul's perspective. A sin is that which devolves the soul or makes the soul feel negative in frequency.

 

Sex is considered a sin in many religions when it is not associated with love , when the act is not in synchronicity of feeling one with God. Love is one of the highest vibrations from the soul's perspective.

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"A negative karmic debt is like a mistake committed while giving a test which has to be rectified in order to pass the test with good grades. When our soul does not learn its soul lessons, we create negative energy in place of the positive energy we would have created by passing the soul test. An erring soul, i.e. the soul who creates negative karma is said to sin." - chapter ten, karmic balancing

As is explained in the book, any activity that we  indulge in makes us feel both positive and negative. An activity which makes us happier than sadder is considered a positive karma. But, an action which makes us feel sadder than happier is considered a sin. For example, drinking alcohol constitutes  a sin because it promises relaxation temporarily. Soon after , the person starts feeling out of control and tense . The brain and soul disconnect due to the chemical reactions and dark thought waves can enter the person's mind as his own brain in not in control. Hangovers cause headaches and lack of positivity.

Similarly, masterbation is considered a sin. As puberty emerges, the need for sexual release pressurizes the body. however, the sexual energy is actually a base form of creative energy.  The sexual energy has to be used up in a way that it can be converted into creativity energy . The red energy of teh root chakra needs to be taken to the brain as blue and purple energy and then released. That helps improve the brain's concentration, processing and spiritual skills.

If people just masterbate and do not convert the sex energy into creative energy, then the purpose of that energy goes waste. we feel dis-satisfied as we do not feel creatively fulfilled and hence, we feel negative. Hence, as sexual energy starts rising in the body, we have to release it in a converted form  by either breath control exercises or masterbating in a way that we focus on the crown and release the orgasm, The  red physical energy of sexuality has to be converted into blue and purple and taken up from the spine, and released from the top of the head. We can imagine releasing energy into a halo of white light on top of the head.The intention of the soul in a human body is to take energy of earth and merge it into the creative energy of the sky.

The sustained release of the orgasm by breathing up to the head  into an imagined chakra light raises soul power to positive. The channelizing of energy at the point of release, reduces excessive need for sex. The flow of energy to the head improves brain power, creativity , real sexual ability, youthful looks and meditative ability.

People indulge in sins because they are desperate to find happiness. They use short cut methods because taking longer routes means defying people and conventional definitions of success. They think that if they have money, or bodily sex or good clothes , all their problems would get solved. But, when it doesn't, they resort to cigarettes or drinks or masterbation or extra marital sex  in the hope of finding relaxation but they still don't. That is because there cannot be satisfaction till our soul is involved in any act we do. The same activity which constitutes a  sin, can lead to raising soul frequency to positive if indulged in  away that it creates more inner satisfaction and increases brain power. It is no the action which matters but the thought behind it. If the intention is positive, happiness is created by the act and it no longer constitutes a sin.

Satisfaction only comes when we evolve our consciousness as co-creators. We evolve when we convert our negative energy into positive by using it in a disciplined way, as through exercise, working at what we love or focusing  on feeling positively loved and spreading love, creatively or  intellectually.

To be happy, just earning money or buying clothes does not help.We have to somehow convert physical energy into energy of inner happiness as  souls in a body . Our body is a machine of conversion of energy. As souls, we are co-creatiors and we have to create by default. When we dont create , we feel frustrated. The sexual act is satisfying when it helps to convert raw energy into physical happiness so that the Creator in  the soul can experience power of creation and  hence, inner happiness.

 

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ch 10 - karmic balancing :- "a prostitute may use her body to earn money but she may not feel happy by having sex without feeling loved. She may feel used and thrown, and hence, the money she earns may not compensate for her loss of happiness."
 

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Sex is meaningless without giving love and receiving love from the depths of the soul. Without love, it is like any other interaction of work or friendship. It does not satiate the need to be totally loved, accepted or happy which we all have at the core. 

Like we eat rich, fattening foods to satiate craving for luxury and feel stuffed later with indigestion, sex for fun leaves a bad feeling in the body.  It makes you feel dysfunctional, empty  and a failure, if you cannot give the person positive energy or if the other person is negative . If there is no energy conversion of deprivation to fulfillment, sex is useless and mechanical. The actions taken during sex do not matter. it is the transfer of love which fulfills the craving of the soul.

Sex creates an energy exchange. It causes energy to flow between the partners. If one person is positive and the other person is negative, the positive person would feel negative after the sexual act and the negative person would feel better.

The money people charge for sex is for this energy drain.

 

A marriage is supposed to be an institution where you can have responsible sex. By responsible sex, is meant a situation where you take responsibility of the energy you pass on to the other person. Traditionally, the woman takes on emotional responsibility of the man and the man takes on financial responsibility of the woman. There is an imposed material exchange but it can be fulfilling only if there is love between partners. for it is love which creates positive energy in the souls involved.

If the partners do not love each other, sex appears futile, a chore and may lead to self hatred. If the man is negative, the woman would feel dissatisfied in sex. Then the woman would not like sex with the man and pass on feelings of hatred to him about himself. The man would pick them up and hate himself more. that will make him more abusive, angry and resentful instead of happy .

 

For good sex, it is important that the man feels satisfied with his life and work. if he uses sex as a vent out for frustration, all his negativity would go into the woman and she will act more bitter,

 

Some women get married only for  a house,clothes and food. They do no think that sex is a part of their duty to the man and then they feel exploited when the man demands sex. But, marriage is for  experiencing sexual satisfaction and love. The needs of house, clothes and food can be obtained from any other job where feelings are not involved.

Ideally, a woman also marries for love. However, for the woman , sexual satisfaction entails feeling respected. The woman has to feel needed and indispensable  to enjoy sex. If the man uses her as a dustbin , she feels used and hates her life with him.

 

When kids are born, sex reduces only when the partners are otherwise not in love. if love is strong and both partners feel whole in each other, The work of kids does not reduce the need for feeling loved from a physical union in mind and body.

 

 In fact, if sex is not there, it is better to live alone and enjoy the material goods because  sexless partnership in marriage leads to more diseases than happiness. when parents do not love each other, children feel negative as thy feel responsible for the continuation of a loveless relationship. Money appears to be a priority for the kids and the married couple but money without creative satisfaction or love only increases emptiness. Children grow up with confused negative values and cannot create happiness in their own lives , later on. But, if the parents seperate and share the responsibilities of kids living apart, then the children feel more secure as they get pure, unsacrificed love from each parent.
 

 

If there is no person to love, the soul-mate has to be created through an energy focus on thinking.Thoughts create realities. By  focusing on feeling loved in imagination, you would create satisfaction in the body. The release of positive hormones and the feelings of happiness can easily be created in imagination. Creating satisfaction in the body through imagined sex is better than having real sex for physical satisfaction . Because, sex just for satisfying the body will not create satisfaction but would only lead to emptiness and exchange of negativity.

Phone sex or sex with unknown people never leads to satisfaction as you dont need a body but teh feeling of being loved through sex. Phone sex or computer sex, without feeling loved as a soul,  is like taking drinks or drugs. It only leads to dissatisfaction and feeling negative after a temporary , artificially created release. The emptiness leads to bitterness and hatred for being alive. That creates a hatred for God's created world and hence is called  a sin. Anything which pretends to satisfy the body but which makes the soul feel cheated of inner pleasure is called a sin.

 

It is much more satisfying to have sex with self than pretend to feel loved by bodies who don't love you. Se x can be created by imagining being in a video game and having real satisfaction. Mental sex through mind control improves focusing ability  as in tantra sex. In creating mental films, the feeling of being absorbed, taken care of and respected are important for sexual satisfaction. Sex is an act of complete trust and surrender for both the man and woman where you remove the walls of negativity around you. Even during self masterbation, it is important to imagine feeling loved and release by looking at an imagined adoring face of a partner. The feeling of being loved and accepted,  creates satisfaction, not the act of sex by itself. ( When you imagine the face, accept first impressions coming to your mind . Focus on the feel of the soul and not on physical features as that person may not yet be in your life. As you focus, you will attract a soul whose energy frequency matches with your own energy , in spirit. Subsequently, you may met that person in real life if your focus is positively expectant and you have faith that you will be able to create the happiness in person a you do in spirit )

 

Rape is a futile act because forced sex can never make you feel loved. When you beat another person, you only make that person despise you, curse you or hate you. Those negative feelings pass onto you and you feel bitter after raping, not satisfied or happy, You may feel revengefully powerful as  you do after beating a person but you feel negatively powerful. Violence doesn't help to be happy, as it is resorting to animal instincts of fighting for survival and not to evolving consciousness which a soul in a human body aims at. Animal like sex devolves soul frequency to less brain activity as in animals. The negative power harms the mind and hence,  raises your anxiety., stress and unhappiness.

 

 

"To be able to receive love, we have to BELIEVE WE CAN.

The art of believing has to be developed by trying our mind to focus on redefining happiness in imagined love, so that the body gets used to the release of positive hormones. " - technique 13, REDEFINING HAPPINESS( how to handle negative feelings , a soul's perspective )

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What is SOUL FREQUENCY AND POWER OF CREATION ?

Our soul is  a part of the Creator and participates in the process of Creation by default. The soul's power of creation is activated through its frequency of vibration just as an electric generator's power of creation is activated by its motor vibration.

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CREATION OF HAPPINESS:THE ENERGY WAR

Chapter 4

Soul Evolution, Soul frequencies, Thought waves and Dimensions

       

           

            Water , when heated, appears unchanging on the surface till suddenly bubbles start appearing and then its frequency changes because it turns into gas …similarly, frequency shifts of any energy matter are invisible at the exterior level, but  they happen be it for water or for a soul

           

           

            Concepts:

Ø The Concept of Soul Frequency

·         Soul advancement

·         Adaptation to change/ Soul flexibility

Ø The role of thought waves in soul evolution

Ø Dimensions in the Universe

           

The Concept of Soul Frequency

The soul is constantly vibrating at a certain frequency or speed and this speed of vibration determines the soul’s ability to mobilize energies for the process of creation.

            The speed at which the soul energy vibrates is called its vibrational frequency or soul frequency.

             The concept of soul frequency is important because the soul’s power of creation depends on its vibrational frequency. The higher the frequency of vibration, greater is the soul’s power of creation.

             

            This concept is further explained below:

            All life in the universe is made up of energy, which we shall call matter. Matter can be solid, liquid or air .All matter or energy vibrates, i.e. oscillates in circular / cyclical motion.

            Different forms of matter vibrate at different speeds. The speed of vibration of a form of energy matter is called its frequency. 

            Energy which vibrates at a higher rate is said to have a higher frequency than that which vibrates at a lower rate.

            The frequency with which matter vibrates distinguishes its form. Solid, liquid and gas are distinguished by the fact that the atoms and molecules in each of these vibrate at different speeds or at different frequencies. The atoms and molecules in a solid are more densely attached and vibrate at a lower frequency than those in liquid or in air.

            Similarly, soul energy vibrates at different frequencies.

            The soul vibrates at a lower frequency in a physical body than in a non-physical state, since the physical body is made of solid matter and vibrates at a low speed, compared to a non-physical spirit form.

            Spirits, choosing to incarnate in a physical body, from the celestial planes have to lower their frequency to be able to enter the physical dimension.

            Also, once they enter the physical body, different souls vibrate at different speeds depending on their level of evolution. Advanced souls vibrate at a higher speed or frequency than less advanced souls.

           

 

Soul Advancement

           

            Advanced souls have different qualities than the less advanced souls. They are usually older souls who have been on the journey of evolution longer than the younger or less advanced souls.

            Hence, they have more experience of cause and effect relationships on the physical plane and are more used to handling the ups and downs of life with the awareness that if they become sad, it will only hurt them more than help them. They are aware of metaphysical realities and of the trap of the vicious circle of negative energies.

            Therefore, they are naturally emotionally stronger, compassionate, have greater wisdom, are less perturbed by negativity in the world and have more control over their choices than less advanced souls.

          

            The choice to raise its frequencies or to lower them lies with the soul. The souls who learn their soul lessons and evolve develop a higher soul frequency, than souls who choose to play with their time on Earth and get caught in the trap of negative thinking.

           

            Soul frequency rises whenever the soul is able to manifest a reality it desires at the level of emotional experience, which makes it feel positive. Soul evolution entails rising to ever higher positive frequencies. To be able to create a happy reality, the soul has to learn soul lessons which help it control and manipulate the energies of creation by using its will - mind power over anarchic negative thinking.

           

            The energies of creation on the physical plane include energies of negative and positive frequencies. Positive energies (   symbolized by ‘+’) aid in the process of creation whereas negative energies (symbolized by ‘–‘ ) cut or block the process of creation.

           

            The negative thoughts/ feelings or energies are dense by nature and, therefore, move at a lower frequency than the normal frequency of the soul.  They are like obstacles on a road which slow down the speed of a car. Negative energy is felt as a dip in oxygen supply. It kind of creates vacuum/swamp like spaces in the soul’s energy. The light of the soul cannot penetrate the dense swamp like clusters of negativity. Hence, the soul feels blocked from spreading its light as the swamp like clusters of negativity resist the flow of positive soul force in the body. The vacuum prevents continuous energy flow and lowers the soul’s frequency or speed.

            The soul’s frequency rises again when it accumulates more positive energy than negative. Whenever the soul’s vibrational frequency rises, it evolves to a qualitatively higher form of existence in the universe where there is greater happiness and less emptiness/vacuum. Literally, as frequency rises, the person feels life is more meaningful than earlier.

             At higher frequencies, the soul’s power of creation automatically increases.

            A high energy frequency helps in creation as the high speed facilitates faster energy flow. The faster speed prevents interruptions of the energy flow by negative blocks. Practically, when the soul energy moves at a high speed, it has a highly positive state of mind. Hence, it keeps rejecting negative doubts, beliefs and worries because the negative energy does not resonate with the high positive frequency of the soul.

             For instance, if water in a river is flowing at a high speed and a rock comes in between, the rock gets thrown off. It cannot stop the current. But, if water in a river is flowing at a slow speed, the rock can significantly lower the current further. A negative thought is like the rock, and the speed of flow of water is the frequency of the soul.

             The rock creates obstacles in the flow. A high frequency soul throws off the rock or the negative thought, but a low frequency soul gets blocked by it.

            Negative thoughts, feelings or energies obstruct the direction of positive soul force. They prevent the soul from remaining focused on what it desires to experience by making it focus instead on the impossibilities of the task. They manifest doubts, distrust, worries and lack of belief. Negative feelings block the process of creation and, hence, soul evolution.

            For example, when a car is speeding, dust does not accumulate on it, but if the car is stationary, it can collect a lot of dust, which can, subsequently, block its functioning. Similarly, when a soul is revolving at a high speed, it shakes off unnecessary thoughts but if a soul is revolving slowly it keeps worrying about everything inconsequential and cannot fathom to create what it desires.          

            The high speed car reaches its destination fast but the stagnant car gets blocked on its way and may never reach its destination. The stagnant soul or a low frequency soul may also never reach its destination. It may not achieve happiness or its purpose of incarnation and may keep compromising through life, believing the compromise to be the only fatalistic reality of life.

                        

            The advanced soul is distinguished from the less advanced soul because it can create the emotional experiences it wants, through using its will and power of focus.  The power to create depends on the soul’s ability to focus on a positive reality.

            The advanced soul is not perturbed by adversities on the material plane. It seeks to be happy, irrespective of adverse external circumstances. The soul test is to create happiness for itself through positive disciplined mind control.

             As the soul focuses on a thought it wants to see manifesting, the process of manifestation begins. This process of creation is explained in detail in chapter 7’ The Law of Creation.’

            Soul frequency rises each time the person uses conscious mind control to deliberately stay focused on positive or neutral feelings, and deliberately rejects the negative as transitory or insignificant.

            For example, if a person is rebuked but feels s/he is in the right, she can reject the rebuke as insignificant or she can feel betrayed and cry over it.

             An advanced soul would reject the abuse by releasing it as black energy from her aura. She would take the incident as karmic as it creates a need for learning of some soul lesson of emotional maturity.

            If the abuse is persistent and s/he can’t get over it just by switching her focus to positive feelings, the advanced soul would make efforts to learn therapeutic techniques by which she can raise her frequency so that she can feel positive in spite of being misunderstood. She may also take the abuser as a less evolved soul, so as to forgive her/his ignorance.

             Overtime, if the rebuke is repetitive, she would be able to detach herself from the situation and move to a place which matches with her positive frequency. The advanced soul would create happiness in her life because she believes in it. S/he would be willing to let go of all that which is negatively blocking her from feeling positive about life. She would like to remain in control of what she creates in her life with the innate awareness that she is a part of the Creator.

            On the other hand, if the soul is less evolved, she would keep brooding over the abuse. She would cultivate anger against the abuser and be in a negative vibration. She would feel hurt, revengeful or depressed. But, she would not try to change her thinking pattern to break free of the negative mind-set. The inability to heal mental abuse would develop problems in her body as she would be constantly poisoning her/his body by feeling negative and releasing stress hormones.

            Her/his situation would worsen with time.

            With a continuous focus on external negative circumstances, she may develop chronic diseases over the long run. She would not be able to detach herself as long as her focus remains negative.  That would make her continue to remain in hell like environment which keeps lowering her soul frequency further. She would always remain sad because she does not believe happiness can be created, given her circumstances.

            So, the less evolved soul would remain a victim of circumstances whereas the advanced souls would learn how to move away to better circumstances.

            The advanced soul would evolve to developing more emotional strength, patience and perseverance in the short run, but as a result would be far happier in the long run.

            Metaphorically, in a difficult situation, the advanced soul would try to get out of the well; whereas the less advanced soul would try to somehow remain afloat inside the well. So, for the less advanced soul, the struggle would be how not to drown; whereas for the more advanced soul, the struggle would be how to fly up  out of the well. The ability to remain afloat in the well would develop with learning how to stay thoughtless and detach from negativity; whereas the ability to fly up to a higher dimension would develop with learning to focus on positively manifesting dreams without giving into self- doubt.

             At a practical level of existence, from a worldly perspective, the process of raising frequencies helps the person become positive, healthy, and peaceful. It, generally, improves individual life in all aspects.

           

           

Adaptation to change/ Soul flexibility

            Every aspect of human life - be it relationships, money, or success, is a manifestation of energy. When our own energies are lighter/finer/clearer, any change is accomplished in an easier and faster manner than when energies are dense. 

            Metaphorically, it is far more difficult to move a table made of stone than moving a table made of wood.

            When our thoughts are of a light frequency, it is easy to snap out of bad experiences but when our thoughts are heavy, dense and entangled, it is very difficult to detach oneself.

            The soul whose frequencies are high is more adaptable to change and can quickly incorporate new developments in life whether it involves adapting to new technology or to new relationships compared to a soul which has low frequency. That is because the soul with a high frequency processes information far more quickly than a soul with a low frequency. 

MARRiAGE ---public opinion vs soul needs

Public opinion has a significant impact oh how we base our decisions, especially if we live in a society like India.

India is known for its family tradition, conservatism, joint families, rituals, geeks and illiteracy.We needed to regenerate the self esteem of Indian culture during the freedom movement to evoke people to rebel .

However, everything that is fair during love and war may not remain as fair after the war is over.

Today, our joint families and strict marriage institutions are the most blocking structures to an economic spurt. To be a part of that system, we cannot be free to be ourselves. The need to please others becomes more important to maintain peace than fostering expression of the soul.

Joint families are praised for the support to children. However, though, children are supposed to have the support of grand parents in joint families, women usually find the system suffocating on personal expression, which makes them grumble on other irrelevant issues. The men seem to keep their soul needs aside in order to fulfill their duties to parents and meeting responsibilities not relevant to their professional growth or soul evolution. Hence, both men and women keep feeling sacrificed to meet demands of a structure they get entangled in .The marriage appears rosy in the beginning but soon starts feeling like a rope around the neck due to all the traditional euphoria attached with it ,which you cannot throw off.

It would be so much easier if we could combine old age homes with orphanages, along with professional care-takers so that both kids and old people  feel entertained but where personal ego would not be involved in rearing children.

Several marriages continue literally because of fear of public opinion. Men find it too cumbersome to break an economic set up to find understanding and happiness for themselves. Daughters do not want to go back to their parents house because parents are afraid of society. It is as if marriage is considered a professional job for the girl and if she comes back, she is jobless and homeless.

Women constantly feel like a burden on their parents and husbands .Parents spend huge amount of money on the weddings instead of giving the money to their daughters in hand so that they could live with self respect, instead of depending totally on other people for support.

Partying, decoration, dressing and jewellery are taken as prestige issues . Huge amounts are spent on these superficial things of display on one day of the wedding. The display becomes more important than free breathing space for the girl  for a life time. Even if dowry is given, it is usually the boy's family which has a right over it. The couple by themselves are not given a priority about how they want to spend the money wasted on partying by the parents and inlaws.

 So, you virtually give your daughter away to people who she has never been with on the sole factor of trust which are anyways, rare in today's world. After that the daughter is bade good bye and she is supposed to adjust to the new house, food, clothing, spending crushing all her dreams only because she is a girl. The boy is supposed to look after the girl within his income even if his needs are not in tune with the girls' demands.

The women themselves feel they would defame their parents if they return and look foolish in society. Men also compromise with women who do not care to understand them or love them in order to maintain a social image. A standard of living which gives no happiness to the soul becomes more important than feeling free, loved and respected. Usually, the children also dis-respect the parents as they imitate the dominating members of the family. So, happiness of life which emerges from experiencing  laughter , freedom to be, and appreciation for positive points become sidelined in the constant abuse inflicted by dark,negative people of the house who are in dominating positions. Slavery continues at the emotional levels because of fear of breaking chains of luxury which you do not need.

The same logic of slavery applies to jobs as to marriages. Men get into marriage and professions, to meet demands of success. Once in the job, they may realize that this is not what they wanted to do. But they continue because they get caught in  a trap of money, luxury, social image, fame , adulation etc. They continue with a set up where they feel constantly bored or suffocated only because of fear of what other people will think if they leave.

Now, how does society matter over your personal freedom? Are you a conditioned slave ?

When we get used to a set up - be it having a car, a mobile phone, luxury, good clothes, pizzas and burgers, movies etc. we need to be aware that we use these things to get pleasure. Things are meant to serve us. We are not the servants of things, food, liquor, partying, clothes or houses and cars.

The pleasure we get from indulging in glitter or luxury,  is our escape from drudgery and boredom.

When we break free , we can easily adapt to another way of life , as well. The standard of living we get used to is not enslaving because when our life is less stressful , we do not need the same kinds of pleasure.

For example, if you are in a bad marriage and you feel suffocated living with your spouse, you would often need to eat out, shop around, drink and party to make up for the lack of love in your life. But, If you are with  a partner who sexually satisfies you and makes you feel desired, understood and loved' you would be happy spending your free time with him or her  or thinking of him or her , than using money to vent out your frustration. The core point to note is that even if you use the  money you earn to spend on drinking, eating out and partying but do not have peace in your house or love in your life, your pain does not reduce much with the partying and maintaining a high standard of living.

Your social image, expensive clothes, fancy cars and fake smiles do not compensate for the lack of respect in the eyes of your spouse.In your core, you feel worthless, unloved and hated . The negative thoughts you have behind the glamour you portray are the feelings which reach the soul.

Your sacrifice for keeping other people happy usually makes you create more negativity within yourself and the environment. You make yourself sad by constantly compromising. And, you make your spouse sad by forcing him or her to live with you. You may claim that the other person's survival depends on your support but how can you give happiness when you radiate negativity as a soul. You cannot give any happiness to a person by hating him or her in principle. If there is no understanding or sexual desirability in your marriage, you can only help yourself and the spouse by freeing him or her from your energy. Your happiness is in freedom from mental abuse and sexual rejection not in forcing yourself on like a ritual.

If you do not think alike with your spouse or your boss or your parents, and you continue with that set up because you feel you have no financial alternative, then you have to overtime, focus on moving out and become immune emotionally.  You cannot feel negative by staying on helplessly as that would aggravate the vicious circle of negativity you are caught in. Even if your financial situation dips when you move out, you higher levels of freedom and peace will compensate for the lack of luxury in your life.

Man is not a slave of the machine. The machine is a slave of the man. We cannot let our need for luxury over rule our needs for sexual and creative fulfillment  It is more happy to live in peace and have the space to smile , by being free of the need to answer people who  mentally abuse, than compromise your soul for having a life of luxury. The luxuries will not satisfy your inner cravings. They will only pull you into a mirage of needing more because the satisfaction you seek cannot come from external glitter.

Your social image, partying and friends help to give you company when you are lonely. But, if you feel loved, complete , sexually satisfied and creatively utilized, then you do not need to maintain an exterior image to attract friendship. If you spend more than your budget allows on eating, drinking and making merry; then , you may get people's company but you  cannot feel loved in your core.That is because the people only reduce your boredom, but to be happy, you have to let go of your negative choices in life which create the boredom.

Staying in a job or marriage only to make a good public image is suicidal for the soul. Overtime, the light from your life will go away and you would become more stressed and diseased , compromising with every breath you take. Then, even your coffee shops, discos  and expensive designer wear will have no impact on your constant feeling on inner sadness; but a freedom from that set up will immediately boost your spirits.

Re beginning of life always appears tough. But, if you are in a  jailed set up, you have to break free your own chains and go into the Garden of Eden.You may have got used to compromising in the jail but as long as you are sad, it means that you are losing out in your soul purpose.

At the end of the life, you , as a soul , would look back and review your life. If you die feeling helpless, you would feel like a failure however hard you may work at jobs which bore you from your insides. The soul incarnates to move to a higher positive frequency and if your choices are such that you feel sad with your life, you devolve to a negative soul frequency. It does not matter whether you sacrifice or kill to make dark forces happy. Pampering negative people is devolutionary for the soul seeking to spread light. As long as you are negative, and encourage other negative people to rule over you, you spread unhappiness and devolve.

What matters is that you are truthful within yourself and do not pamper people who are selfish or abusive in conduct only because they are your family or friends or colleagues. Your light spreads by being happy and clear in your own soul light, not by being impure by following traditional beliefs which may have gone redundant in function.

Other people do not come and live your life in your place. So, basing your judgments on what they think can be foolish from the perspective of evolving as a soul, especially if you harm genuinely honest people for the sake of pleasing dark forces. Your inability to judge a pure soul from a negative soul reflects as your karmic weakness.

If you try to meet the requirements of your livelihood over your needs of love or peace, the money you earn from the job will not help you be happy because the extent of negativity you create in your life and the lives of others by your stress will make the money lose its value as a means of security. Your unhappiness will spread the negative virus of feeling bad to all those who you talk to vent out your frustration. Also, by staying in marriages where you disagree with your spouse, you may harm children more than protect them as the negative soul would also lower the children's confidence. The negative feelings you indulge in by feeling helpless or sad and  the inability to protect the pure souls like children from negative fathers or mothers - reflects on your heath, mental anxiety and increasing hospital or liquor bills..

Public opinion matters only if you look at other people for your sense of right or wrong. If you connect to God, meditate regularly and can develop your own sense of right and wrong, from God's perspective of evolution , then you can lead people instead of following them. Mass consciousness evolves and India is considered a backward, ritualistic country because of its so called 'Parampara ', which is blocking on personal space and freedom of expression.

 Social consciousness evolves with time and if we observe, in richer , progressive countries, family ties are not as strong as in India. The state takes over more responsibility as economic ties do not bind people in suffocating set ups of mutual adjustment.

           As is given in the book CREATION OF HAPPINESS : THE ENERGY WAR, a soul's perspective :

                

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            Our beliefs about life are often conditioned such that we get tuned into suppressing our negative feelings for the sake of maintaining a positive exterior front.   However, our positive self talk fails to help us if we feel negative within, irrespective of how it should be as per our beliefs and conventions.

            For example, if we are in a marriage (or in a job) where we have several differences with our partner, we may tell ourselves repeatedly that we are coping up happily but go on feeling sad within. The negative feelings would reach our soul, not what we tell ourselves consciously, since the soul only feels us at an energy level; it cannot hear our self rationalization.

             When we cheat our soul, we feel internally helpless and our bounce of life drops because the soul is like the filament of a bulb. It keeps getting its power from the main source of Life, through invisible energy circuits, which connect the soul to its Higher Self.

            If the focus of the body is on negativity, these energy circuits get clogged and the connection of the bulb to the source of light gets weakened.

            The soul can no longer connect to the Light and hence, it no longer feels positive. Its frequency lowers.

            Like a fused bulb filament, it feels trapped inside the body, unable to connect to or radiate life force. However, unlike the machine filament, the soul doesn’t permanently die. It has a unique consciousness, and the power to revive through exercise of its will.

            When the soul feels blocked it tries to restore back to its original frequency. To raise its frequency, it has to reconnect to the main source of Light.

            To reconnect to the light, it has to clear its energy circuits by removing all thoughts and beliefs which make it focus on the negative. Hence, our soul tries to break that structure around us, which forces us to focus on the negative aspects of life.

            For example, the soul which feels blocked in a marriage or in a job would try to remove this obstacle which it perceives is the cause of lowering its frequency. Thus, irrespective of our positive self-talk, our soul energy would pull us subconsciously to break the marriage or leave the job.

              If we ignore our subconscious pull, we would go on feeling sad. Overtime, due to feeling sad, we would develop mental and physical diseases, as there would be a consistent focus on stress and release of negative hormones in the body. The negative feelings would keep lowering the soul frequency, and our situation would turn from bad to worse as we go on reinforcing our focus on the negative situation.

            The only way to help our soul feel positive would be to make ourselves feel good, not merely tell ourselves that we feel okay. Feeling good internally would be a more honest experience and would necessitate changing a negative pattern of thinking or working or living.

            To feel good, we would need to release illusory fears of survival, which may be the reason for us to want to continue living in the negative experience.  Or we may have to break persistent, harmful habits which create problems in our job or marriage like laziness, impatience, rigidity of thinking, refusal to adopt positive beliefs, lack of self-discipline etc. In either case, feeling good within would require learning of soul lessons, failing which we would continue feeling negative.