Sacrifice vs. Detachment
Between sacrificing for another or detaching from another's demands , choose that which makes you vibrationally more positive in your everyday life
At the end of your life, you will not be judged by how many people you made happy, but by the positive karma or good electric impulses which radiated from you while helping others and the peace you helped otherrs generate by their vibrational evolution ,
the more negative you stay, the more diseases you will attract and the more unhappiness you will spread automatically by your soul radiation
Choose to be content than being a sacrificial goat
The Law of Creation
operates at an energy level which is affected by the matrix of other people’s
feelings focused upon the same reality. Your feelings will be influenced by other
people’s energies and may manifest sooner or get destroyed by the impact of
other people’s energies dominating your feelings.
We live in a matrix of
thought waves, which move as sound waves or light waves. The thought waves
which have more energy/ feeling intensity overrule the thought waves which have
less felt intensity .
In a group activity, the
positive feelings which we focus upon can be overruled by negative feelings
focused upon by other people . Also, when competitions exist , the same feelings
are focused upon by several people, and the highest energy intensity wins .For
example, if you focus on the feeling that you are being acknowledged by getting
an award in your class for performing well , you may be competing with other
fellow students who are also focusing on
co-creating the same reality. The expectation of the student who is most
confident that he would get the award is likely to win over a less confident
student; even if the less confident student works harder . A poorer quality
performance may win if it has more positive expectations of winning attached
than a better performance with fear of failure attached .
The higher quality of
performance would get more acknowledgement only where no fear value is attached
as self-doubt and fear lower the ability to receive acknowledgement and prevent creation of positive cycles.
Co-creation of Reality is
a purely vibrational phenomenon and does not directly depend on the quality of
work involved. Often, it has been observed that less deserving people get more
acknowledgement in society ; but that is because they are more confident vibrationally that
they deserve the award, while the more hard working remain in self -doubt.
Likewise, when you start
working as an adult , you would again face this matrix of expectations in any
job you undertake. You may find less efficient people succeeding over you
because they are more confident that they would and do not hesitate using
manipulation to create fear or self - doubt in you. Negative feelings created
by energy transfer of thought waves would reduce your confidence and your
positive feelings will feel obstructed by entrance of negative energies ; just
as a car gets obstructed on a road by obstacles coming up along the way.
Every negative feeling which you choose to focus upon would act as an obstacle towards creation of
a positive reality in your life.
Hence, to create a future
more positive than now, you would have to learn to insulate yourself from negative feelings . For example, a
fear of losing can be overcome by
developing detachment from an outcome while mobilizing effort towards
manifesting it . Detachment is an energy of ZERO or neutral frequency and
higher in positive vibration than the fear of losing which is an energy
of a negative frequency.
To remain happy over being
sad, you would have to realize that you are a player in a game and you may lose in some areas while
winning in other areas . The areas which you excel at would be your strengths
and the areas which you lose in would be your weaknesses . Positive energy in
your body and mind would rise when you focus more energy on developing your
strengths while putting less tension into improvising your weaknesses.
A soul is like the ray of sunlight; where the
Sun is the Creator and the soul is the Co-creator. Each ray is a part of the
whole but distinct in its individual abilities and the brightening of each
brightens the light of the whole. Just
as all flowers of the garden cannot be same, all souls cannot excel in the same
areas of life or derive satisfaction from the same measures of success. Hence,
it is necessary to be aware that each of us would be different and have unique
skills of participating in the overall process of creation. Just as watering
each cell is necessary for the whole body to function well, the increase of
positive energy in each person increases
the universal flow of happiness .
The brighter each ray shines, the brighter is the light of the Sun
and the happier each soul feels, the more powerful is the feeling of happiness
felt by the whole group and subsequently, the whole universe.
To increase feelings of
being happy, you would need to focus more on the feelings which make you feel
content and confident; while reducing focus on feelings which make you feel
incomplete and dis-satisfied.
Energy transfers from one
person to another automatically like rain falls. However, just as an umbrella
protects , insulation from negative thinking protects the optimist. The people who choose to insulate themselves
from sadness and focus on positive
thinking are always happier and healthier than those who chose to stay sad.
Practical Exercise 12 ( PE 6.9) – Insulate From The Need to Sacrifice for
Satisfying Negative People
Concept
:
While understanding matrix of
thought waves, the basic concept to understand is the energy of Sacrifice. The
decision to sacrifice priorities of self for obeying others, who are
pre-dominantly negative, is often a cause
of stress and tension.
Though, Sacrifice helps in soul
evolution as it helps in increasing happiness in self and others ; it can lead
to soul devolution if it is done out of fear . Sacrifice helps in increasing
positive energy when it increases self -worth of the person and helps in
evolution of new consciousness over tradition but it reduces positive energy if
sadness felt is greater than happiness created
.
For example, you may choose to
sacrifice less important goals for more important targets of overall
satisfaction as when mothers sacrifice a highly paying professional career for
rearing up children . The satisfaction which is sacrificed by giving up on
money is reimbursed by increase of peace in the house . However, sacrificing is
harmful when tension created is more than positivity created by the act of
sacrifice . For example, if you sacrifice your peace of mind to soothe a
negative person, you often end up feeling more stressed without the other
person feeling as ameliorated. There is a sucking out of positive energy
without it being restored back by increasing feelings of overall happiness.
Though, sacrificing happiness and feeling sad is one of the easiest ways to
resolve a difficult situation , it fails to uplift intelligence of those people
who keep demanding your energy without paying you back through acknowledgement,
money or help .
Detachment or INSULATION
from attention seekers is a better method of sacrificing happiness for a higher
evolutionary target, than becoming sad as sadness or complaining reduce soul
frequency. Detachments help you stay neutral to a traditional perspective
of happiness, but do not make you feel
sad about compromising on your inner
values. Understanding where to be sad and where to detach/insulate from others
is an essential skill to apply when deciding to use sacrifice for increasing
overall happiness.
Activity:
You often have a choice between
speaking the truth or lying to yourself to keep a situation calm and make
everyone happy . However, if you feel sacrificed by hiding the truth, you need
to speak up for calming your own energies even if it creates disturbance in
other people’s self-confidence or
deteriorates peaceful circumstances.
It is useful to sacrifice if your
self- control , health and inner power improve by the sacrifice but it is
harmful to sacrifice to facilitate the victory of competitive pressure, fashion
trends, demanding parents , pampered ego values and traditional requirements
where your feelings of helplessness rise by the sacrifice.
It is also necessary to be aware that, if you hide the
truth to protect a fearful, malicious or
negative person; that person anyways gets into trouble in some other way
because of his own negative vibrations. Your sacrifice of your own confidence
and positive energies goes waste in creating a happy environment because the
negative person spreads more unhappiness after being protected. However, your optimistic/positive energy reduces if
you are sad , thus degrading the overall positive frequency.
Whenever you are asked to
sacrifice to pacify a negative person or situation : Visualize two scenarios .
Scenario 1- Imagine how it would be if you sacrificed
Scenario 2- Imagine how it would be if you refused to
sacrifice
For example, imagine that your mother
is always in tension and asks you to do
some housework as she likes which is more than your routine responsibility. To
do the extra work, you have to sacrifice
your time for studying or working on your own chores . You decide to win her
approval and sacrifice your work time to help her relax by helping her in a way
which she likes. In the short run, your sacrifice of studying/work time for
relaxing her may calm her but she already, has a negative internal dominant
focus as she is always tense. Hence, by habit, she would take on other extra
work and her tension would remain the same . However, your sacrifice of study
time would reduce your grades/ credits and self -worth. You may start
disapproving yourself if you do not study as much as you need for your
satisfaction, your work performance would be poorer and you may, thus attract
disapproval . So, the stress which you try to avoid by sacrificing comes
through another route, your mother’s tension does not reduce but your sacrifice
reduces your positive energy.
On the other hand, imagine the
scenario that you refuse to sacrifice to help your mother as she likes but
continue your studies / working as you like . Your mother keeps grumbling in
tension but you insulate yourself and keep studying. You get good grades/
credits and your self- worth rises. Your mothers tension remains the same but
is slightly ameliorated when you get good results . Your level of satisfaction
with yourself rises and you can contribute towards increasing happiness in a way where you feel satisfied while
helping others be happy. Your refusal to do routine work which you do not like
helps you do better work where you are skilled. Therefore, your detachment from
your mother’s tension activates brighter energies in you, than being sad
yourself.
On the other hand, if you find
that you and your mother become happier by your sacrifice, then, the sacrifice
is necessary for both of you to reformulate your priorities such that the
positive frequencies realized are highest possible, given all circumstances.
The same logic is very important for losing
weight . Losing weight necessitates that you sacrifice the need to eat
traditional food to keep your mother , your friends or others happy and eat
only that which feels healthy. It is established by research that heavy food is
difficult to digest and the negative hormones produced, lead to unhappiness in
the soul . But, most people eat fatty foods to keep up with the traditional
requirements of tasty eating and sacrifice their own intuitive wisdom about how
to be in good health. The need to listen to mass wisdom over body wisdom can
harm health if the people advising are more unhappy/ fat/ sick than happy and healthy.
