Parents or husbands who justify hitting as teaching are beasts in temperament,
Abusers need abuse to survive themselves as negativity thrives by beating
A soul who really cares to teach you will be loving and patient,
Learning is a slow process and most effective when rewarded with love and respect
Teaching methods have evolved overtime because hitting has never been an acceptable method of teaching anything.
People who have been hit have rarely learned bur always rebelled as souls.
Physical punishment has been actively discouraged as research shows that it leads to temporary improvement other than hatred within self and feelings of enmity.
The person punished behaves well till the abuser or teacher is around only to maintain peace but repeats the same mistakes once the presence of teacher is removed.
This is because hitting does not change the person’s thinking. The slapping or abusing only attacks the body not the mind. It acts like a physical restraint not a soul restraint. The soul is energy and goes back to its original level of imbalance the moment the subjugating pressure is lifted.
Hitting can be substituted with other methods of teaching which have been developed by behavior analysts in the past century. Teaching can be made more effective by using POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT METHODS Of teaching.
There are two main methods of teaching:
Negative reinforcement includes physical punishment and TIME OUT. TIME OUT includes taking away of a positive reinforce like TV or games. It also includes introducing negative reinforcers in place of a positive reinforcer. For example, making the child do extra studying in place of play time is a negative reinforcement.
Negative reinforcers are slower methods of teaching than beating child into discipline but have long term improvement effects compared to hitting. Hitting only silences the child at the moment but the child screams more later, making the overall impact worse than ever.
Hitting can be used when something negative has to be stopped immediately , but it has to be accompanined by other training methods which use positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement therapy ofa milder kind. Hitting is justified if you are being beaten like in self defense but not as a cgoice of action as it has a negative impact on the logical process of the brain.
Positive reinforcement includes rewarding good behavior by praise or using tangible positive reinforcers like chips, chocolates, gifts etc. Praising a child after routine good behaviors like getting up on time, brushing teeth, keeping plates in sink etc. conform to the child that he is on right track. Praising the child after studying, getting good grades or any exam help the child learn better in the future.
Ignoring good behavior can act as a negative reinforce if the child feels that he should be doing something else in place of following regular discipline which would be more fun.
Adult behaviors follow childhood conditioning. Praising self after routine good behaviors helps us stay good, healthy and peaceful; while always criticizing self acts like hitting the body and harming the soul. It has temporary effects on self improvement and we keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
The only sure method of improving long term behavior of self and children is using POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT. Too much self praise leads to arrogance but PRAISING SELF AND OTHERS MILDLY but genuinely, has subconscious positive impact. Subtle feelings reach the soul.
Capital punishment is actively discouraged as killing a person does not kill his soul. The soul returns with greater vengeance and bitterness than before. The soul cannot be positive in attitude till he is reinforced by love, forgiveness and patience. For more self discovery of the soul, refer to my book IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS.