This is an extract from the updated version of A COURSE IN EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT
Appendix 1- Aim To Increase Happiness in the Future
It is a general trend to aim at increasing success, wealth
and accolades to feel happy in the future.
However, medals on the wall, money in the bank and success
in the eyes of the world does not help the soul in feeling loved, happy or
healthy.
Therefore, if the aim is to be happy, it is necessary to
target at good health, peacefulness of the mind and self respect.
As a soul, love and happiness have to be realized while
being alive to feel successful. Being successful as conventionally defined only
ensures good food, clothing and shelter which cater to the survival needs of
the ape man’s mind but does not satisfy the advanced human mind which seeks
gratification for its efforts, respect in its own measures, self -love, liking
its own self, body and mind , and evolution towards being a wiser human .
A soul which is successful would die at a higher level of
happiness than it was born, while feeling healthy and content at the moment of death.
As a practice, some mind training exercises are needed in
routine to stay happy as physical training exercises are needed to feel
healthy.
Some of the do’s and don’ts
are:
To be routinely happy & healthy, it helps to do the following:
1. Count
ten good things in your world every day and thank God and your soul for
co-creating these blessings
2. Count
ten good things in yourself and start liking yourself more than cursing
yourself
3. Count
ten good things in your routine life and in your environment which you take for
granted but cannot do without. For e.g. Electricity, water, bed, clothes, mobility,
phones, internet, basic food etc.
4. Do
some breathing exercises everyday along with meditating in silence.
5. Use
self-help books on developing intuition as you would need to connect to your
soul energy at a symbolic level to understand your core needs of happiness
To be happy &
healthy, it helps to Not Do the following with awareness as the natural conditioning
is to imitate dominant thinking:
1. Do
not allow other people’s negative thinking to depress you or your optimism.
Have faith. Allow positive thinking within your mind to win over energies of
fear, anger or sadness.
2. Do
not keep thinking of bad words spoken by people about yourself or others.
Prevent transfer of energies. Use the process of Energy Cord Cutting given
below on a daily basis to remove negative energy between you and negative
people around you. If you miss love from the other person, you may recreate the
cord with positive energy visualization as explained in appendix 2.
3. Be
aware of transfer of negative and bad energies when you have negative thoughts.
Always check if the thoughts are your own or have been passed onto you by other
dominating people.
4. Do
not create diseases in yourself by focusing on other people’s problems. Very
often, diseases are created in the body because of a subconscious competitive
focus on having more than other people, be it negative or positive energy. The
subconscious mind does not understand the distinction between good and bad
energies. If you are competitive at the core, your subconscious mind will
increase your health problems along with your wealth /success as it wants to
have most of every experience on Earth. Health problems arise due to negative
thinking and resolve by converting thinking to positive. Just taking medicines
does not heal the body, mind or soul. Healing takes patience and conversion of
negative beliefs into positive even if it takes a longer period of time than
conventional, medical treatment. Always aim at achieving happiness with inner
contentment than finishing work by taking pills and feeling sick later.
5. Do
not eat fatty foods, take medicines/drugs or drink alcohol to make others happy.
If you feel an urge, minimize the quantity which you intake and be aware of the
effects it has on your body and spirits. Depression is often a result of eating
too much or drinking alcohol which create hormonal imbalances in the body.
