The core issue often revolves around unmet expectations, lack of emotional security, financial imbalance, and differing emotional needs.
1. Emotional Disappointment
Before marriage, many women expect deeper emotional support, thinking their partner will be their best friend, confidant, and cheerleader.
However, after marriage, they often find that their partner isn't as emotionally available or expressive as they imagined. This can lead to feelings of loneliness despite being in a relationship.
2. Lack of Security for Efforts
In their parental home, women often receive support, encouragement, and protection for their actions.
Post-marriage, they’re expected to "perform" (manage home, relationships, and sometimes work) but may not receive the same acknowledgment or backing.
3. Financial Inequality & Prioritization
Many cultures still prioritize men's financial needs over women’s. Even when women earn, their money is often seen as supplementary, not as something for their own enjoyment.
Some men may even control their wife’s earnings while freely spending their own money.
4. Different Spending Priorities
Many women like spending on self-care, shopping, and experiences that bring them emotional comfort.
Men often prioritize gadgets, vehicles, parties, or sports, which don’t necessarily make women feel valued in the same way.
5. Emotional vs. Recreational Needs
Women often process emotions through talking and connection, whereas men prefer distraction through sports, drinking, or other activities that don't require deep conversations.
This leads to emotional dissatisfaction because the woman doesn't feel "heard" or "understood."
6. Independence Leads to Happiness
Women who remain self-reliant, career-focused, or have personal goals beyond marriage tend to feel more fulfilled.
Those who center their happiness entirely around marriage may struggle more when their expectations aren’t met.
What’s the Solution?
Past life healing helps in finding self confidence and forgiveness to be positive .
Pre-marriage Clarity: Women need to evaluate a partner’s mindset about emotions, finances, and shared responsibilities before commitment.
Emotional Intelligence Training for Both Partners: Couples should learn how to bridge emotional gaps instead of escaping into distractions.
Financial Boundaries: Women should maintain control over their finances rather than handing over their earnings or feeling guilty for spending on themselves.
Personal Identity Beyond Marriage: Women who cultivate hobbies, careers, or friendships outside their marriage are often more emotionally balanced.
Marriage itself isn’t the problem—the lack of balance, fairness, and emotional connection is. When a woman enters marriage with her own sense of security, financial stability, and emotional intelligence, she’s less likely to feel trapped or unfulfilled.
Past life therapy can significantly help in making a marriage work for higher positivity or break with mutual consent if positivity together is not possible.
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