Every mystery has a solution in our subconscious
our core fears and conflicts come from the subconscious
getting in touch with our own subconscious mind
is the greatest gift we can gift ourselves
The human mind is divided into two main parts - the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.
The conscious mind is the rational, reasoning, analytical mind. It is the mind as we are aware of in the here and now. It includes all our conscious processes. For example, at this moment, you are consciously aware that you are reading about emotional management, and you are aware that you are curious what this concept entails. But you are not aware of how your breathing is being synchronized in your body, how your blood pressure is being maintained, how your body is being balanced in the position you are sitting or standing in. You are not paying much attention to the touch of your shoes on your feet, of how your clothes feel on your body, or how your emotional state has been since morning. All this that you are not aware of, at the moment, is being handled by the subconscious mind.
The conscious mind makes up for about 10% of the total mind. Whenever we use our mind for focusing or learning or reasoning or analyzing, with conscious awareness of what we are processing, it is the conscious mind we are using.
The remaining 90% of the mind is called the subconscious mind.
(Psychologists like Froyd and Jung have distinguished between the subconscious and the Unconscious mind, but for the purpose of this book, we will use the two terms, interchangeably-- since in practical application, there is not much difference between these two states.  The subconscious mind is accessed in the semi-awake state—as when the conscious mind is completely relaxed or semi-active. The unconscious mind is the state of mind when we are completely unaware of what is happening, as in deep sleep. The difference between these states of consciousness is measured by frequency of brain waves. In the completely awake state, the mind is said to be in
—where the brain experiences above
14 cycles per second. In the subconscious states, the mind is in alpha state (
7-14 cycles per second ) or in Theta state ( less than 7 cycles per second ). In the unconscious
state, the brain is said to be in delta state , where the brain waves circulate
at 5 or less cycles per second.) Beta State
The subconscious mind is the storehouse of all our memories, and our past experiences. It is the processing unit, which governs our responses from moment to moment. It also controls our autonomic nervous system-viz. it maintains the normal functioning of the organs of the body. For example, it maintains our blood pressure, our heart beat, repairs damaged tissues etc.
While the conscious mind is needed for maintaining awareness in the here and now, the conscious mind can only manage one or two tasks at one time.
The conscious mind focuses on one task at any moment of time. But, the subconscious mind is manages several functions at the same time. It is about eight times more powerful than the conscious mind.
The conscious mind can effectively focus on the task at hand, because the subconscious mind takes care of the rest of the body’s functioning.
Learning task 1—Knowing the power of the subconscious mind
Write down or list five functions the subconscious mind is taking care of while you are reading this page. e.g. Breathing, digesting food,………,…….,………..
Metaphorically, the subconscious mind is like the hard disk of the computer or the engine of the car whereas the conscious mind is the computer operator or the driver of the car, respectively.
The efficacy of the computer operator depends a large extent on the kind of data stored in the hard disk. If the hard disk is old and redundant, the computer cannot function at its optimal, however hard the operator tries.
Similarly, the car driver needs a good engine to be able to drive the car smoothly. If the car is not running smoothly, the driver first needs to check the engine rather than his driving abilities
Like the hard disk of the computer or the engine of the car, the subconscious mind plays a crucial role in our everyday life as, our memories and our experiences set the base for how we learn, respond and act in any given situation at any point of our lives.
You may not be consciously aware of events in your childhood which impacted you deeply or the major accomplishments and losses you have experienced in your life.
But, these past experiences run as programmes in the subconscious mind and they affect your daily behavior without your conscious awareness. Your general established pattern of working, and your belief or disbelief in your own abilities, affects your ability to receive information and process it at each moment of your life..
The subconscious mind governs all our automatic behaviors. Whenever a situation occurs in our life, we respond to it automatically, but our response depends on how our past experience has been of a similar situation. We respond the same way to a situation internally, as we responded in the past ; and how we feel internally, naturally affects how we respond externally.
Our whole past experience is stored in the subconscious mind, along with our previous response, as a computer programme. So, if we cried in childhood when our parents rebuked us for failing in an exam, we cry/become sad internally , even as adults when we get rebuked on our work performance by a person in authority.
Each intense emotional situation triggers on a SWITCH in our subconscious mind which rekindles all previous experiences of the same emotion.
Each emotional memory gets stored in the subconscious mind. The organization of memory storage depends on the intensity of emotion felt . An old memory, subsequently gets triggered off each time a similar event, at the level of feelings, occurs.
Each emotion carries an electric impulse and releases energy in the body. A strong emotional experience releases greater negative energy and gets imprinted in the subconscious mind, more deeply. This emotional experience causes accumulation of negative energy, in the mind.
Usually, we suppress this negative energy to forget the painful experience, as we do not know any other way to deal with it. This suppressed negative energy reserve gets awakened each time, a similar emotional experience occurs even when the new emotional experience is milder in intensity to the original one.
In fact, the whole programme may get opened up by a single trigger—like a phrase, a sound , a touch or a sensation which reminds you of the original event.
As explained in the prologue, there are energy circuits or neuron-pathways, running in the mind carrying energies of the dominant feelings we focus on.
Any event which has a strong emotional impact becomes a point of dominant focus and starts forming an energy circuit. After some time, this energy circuit gets suppressed, as our point of dominant focus shifts to another event. However, this negative energy circuit remains in the mind and keeps attracting energies of similar nature. Whenever we experience similar kinds of emotions, they also get accumulated in the same energy circuit, thus making it stronger.
The negative emotional memories of past traumas in the subconscious mind get stpred as energy units. These energy formations do not break till we make a conscious attempt to break them, by releasing the negative energy accumulated in the mind .
The negative memory which was originally created by the event which caused the strong emotional impact, and subsequently reinforced by similar events which followed, needs to be re addressed and erased , after learning the soul lesson involved.
Usually, any small reminder of the original event triggers off the whole memorized film subconsciously . Even if we do not recall the exact events, the feelings of distress pass through the wires of the energy circuits as negative electric impuses, travelling at neon speed.
We experience deep feelings of hurt and pain which were experienced during the original crisis situation, even though the present occasion may be much milder and need not require arousal of such extreme distress.
Thus, you feel a much greater surge of negative emotional energy getting released than the present event can justify . At a rational level, you do not understand why you are feeling so hurt .
Metaphorically, this function of the subconscious mind is similar to a programme opening up, on the computer screen, by typing a key word in the search engine.
Due to these old energy circuits getting triggered off, we may react to the external stimuli far more strongly than the present situation may warrantee.
This aspect matters in daily functioning because it determines how we manage our emotions in situations of stress.
For example, suppose you felt deeply humiliated in childhood and your colleague did not have any such strong emotional experience. Now, you both have a superior who loses his temper often. . You feel deeply humiliated and hurt each time the superior shouts at you. However, when the superior shouts at the colleague, he is more indifferent about it.
Thus, his response to the superior’s shouting, may be very different from yours , even though the external experience for both of you was the same.
So, the superior would not understand why you are taking his shouting negatively whereas your colleague is not. At a rational, reasoning level there would be no justifiable reason for your feeling humiliated when your other colleagues take the same experience indifferently.
Your feeling of humiliation would affect your work performance negatively, and your success would suffer. Thus, an emotional experience which you suppressed in your childhood would affect your rational thought in the present day, since the shouting triggers off a whole chain of suppressed negative emotions in your mind.
To heal this emotion, such as not to feel humiliated, you would need to resolve the issue at the root cause because if you don’t, the strong suppressed emotions would keep attracting similar energies.
To explain the need for healing the root cause issue through a metaphor- if we, take the energy circulation in our body as a flowing drain, a negative energy reserve acts like a big rock stuck in the drain, which prevents water from flowing through smoothly. A suppressed negative memory prevents us from thinking and reacting rationally because the energy current pulling us down towards negative impulsive thinking, is very strong.
When we heal this issue, we release the stuck energy from the mind so that the drain gets cleared off and water can start flowing smoothly again.
The techniques for healing are dealt with in later chapters.
Right now, we first need to understand how we can access these memories in the subconscious mind. It is not difficult to access them because they anyway keep coming up . Due to lack of awareness of techniques of emotional management, we usually suppress these memories, whenever they come up. However, to move onto happiness, we need to start confronting them, so that we can heal them subsequently.
The system in our body is so created that the subconscious mind keeps reminding us that old suppressed negative emotions need to be healed and converted into positive energy.
Learning task 2 –Getting in touch with the subconscious mind
Part A - Think of any emotional problem, which occurred in your early life and which still troubles you. It can be anything very small as you mom scolding you or a fight in school.
Write the feelings involved- anger, hurt, fear, sadness, guilt, shock, betrayal feeling non-understood, violated etc.
Part B(optional)-Can you also recall a recurrence of that specific feeling in your recent past?
Can you focus only on the feelings involved irrespective of other factors ?
How often does that kind of anger or sadness get triggered?
Do you feel the same emotion coming up, at the back of your mind ( maybe in much smaller intensity) in your normal course of life?
Do you suppress the emotion to curtail it from becoming painful?
Keep focusing on the emotion and dis-associate it with people or things. As you keep doing this, you will learn to access the energy circuit ruling your feelings .
Focus will lead to healing and the emotional chain will break overtime, through integrating several self healing techniques. focusing on the negative as a n energy , irrespective of other factors involves is the first step in breaking the chains forming the web around it.