Every mystery has a solution in our subconscious
our core fears and conflicts come from the subconscious
getting in touch with our own subconscious mind
is the greatest gift we can gift ourselves
The human mind is divided into two main
parts - the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.
The conscious mind is the rational,
reasoning, analytical mind. It is the mind as we are aware of in the here and
now. It includes all our conscious processes. For example, at this moment, you
are consciously aware that you are reading about emotional management, and you
are aware that you are curious what this concept entails. But you are not aware
of how your breathing is being synchronized in your body, how your blood
pressure is being maintained, how your body is being balanced in the position
you are sitting or standing in. You are not paying much attention to the touch
of your shoes on your feet, of how your clothes feel on your body, or how your
emotional state has been since morning. All this that you are not aware of, at
the moment, is being handled by the subconscious mind.
The
conscious mind makes up for about 10% of the total mind. Whenever we use our
mind for focusing or learning or reasoning or analyzing, with conscious awareness
of what we are processing, it is the conscious mind we are using.
The remaining 90% of the mind is called the
subconscious mind.
(Psychologists like Froyd and Jung
have distinguished between the subconscious and the Unconscious mind, but for
the purpose of this book, we will use the two terms, interchangeably-- since in
practical application, there is not much difference between these two states. [1]
The subconscious mind is accessed in the semi-awake state—as when the conscious
mind is completely relaxed or
semi-active. The unconscious mind is the state of mind when we are completely
unaware of what is happening, as in deep sleep.
The difference between these states of consciousness is measured by
frequency of brain waves. In the completely awake state, the mind is said to be
in Beta State
The subconscious mind is the storehouse of
all our memories, and our past experiences. It is the processing unit, which
governs our responses from moment to moment. It also controls our autonomic
nervous system-viz. it maintains the normal functioning of the organs of the
body. For example, it maintains our blood pressure, our heart beat, repairs
damaged tissues etc.
While the conscious mind is needed for
maintaining awareness in the here and now, the conscious mind can only manage
one or two tasks at one time.
The conscious mind focuses on one task at
any moment of time. But, the subconscious mind is manages several functions at
the same time. It is about eight times more powerful than the conscious mind.
The conscious mind can effectively focus on
the task at hand, because the subconscious mind
takes care of the rest of the body’s functioning.
Learning task 1—Knowing the
power of the subconscious mind
Write down or list five
functions the subconscious mind is taking care of while you are reading this
page. e.g. Breathing, digesting food,………,…….,………..
Metaphorically, the subconscious mind is
like the hard disk of the computer or the engine of the car whereas the
conscious mind is the computer operator or the driver of the car, respectively.
The
efficacy of the computer operator depends a large extent on the kind of data
stored in the hard disk. If the hard disk is old and redundant, the computer
cannot function at its optimal, however hard the operator tries.
Similarly, the car driver needs a good
engine to be able to drive the car smoothly. If the car is not running
smoothly, the driver first needs to check the engine rather than his driving
abilities
Like the hard disk of the computer or the
engine of the car, the subconscious mind plays a crucial role in our everyday
life as, our memories and our
experiences set the base for how we learn, respond and act in any given
situation at any point of our lives.
You
may not be consciously aware of events in your childhood which impacted you
deeply or the major accomplishments and losses you have experienced in your
life.
But, these past experiences run as programmes
in the subconscious mind and they affect your daily behavior without your
conscious awareness. Your general established pattern of working, and your
belief or disbelief in your own abilities, affects your ability to receive
information and process it at each
moment of your life..
The subconscious mind governs all our
automatic behaviors. Whenever a situation occurs in our life, we respond to it
automatically, but our response depends on how our past experience has been of
a similar situation. We respond the same way to a situation internally, as we
responded in the past ; and how we feel internally, naturally affects how we
respond externally.
Our whole past experience is stored in the
subconscious mind, along with our previous response, as a computer programme.
So, if we cried in childhood when our
parents rebuked us for failing in an exam, we cry/become sad internally , even
as adults when we get rebuked on our work performance by a person in authority.
Each intense emotional situation triggers
on a SWITCH in our subconscious mind which rekindles all previous experiences
of the same emotion.
Each
emotional memory gets stored in the
subconscious mind. The organization of memory storage depends on the intensity
of emotion felt . An old memory, subsequently gets triggered off each time a
similar event, at the level of feelings, occurs.
Each
emotion carries an electric impulse and releases energy in the body. A strong
emotional experience releases greater negative energy and gets imprinted in the
subconscious mind, more deeply. This
emotional experience causes accumulation of negative energy, in the mind.
Usually,
we suppress this negative energy to forget the painful experience, as we do not
know any other way to deal with it. This suppressed negative energy reserve gets awakened each time, a similar
emotional experience occurs even when the new emotional experience is milder in
intensity to the original one.
In fact,
the whole programme may get opened up by a single trigger—like a phrase, a
sound , a touch or a sensation which reminds you of the original event.
As
explained in the prologue, there are energy circuits or neuron-pathways,
running in the mind carrying energies of the dominant feelings we focus on.
Any
event which has a strong emotional impact becomes a point of dominant focus and
starts forming an energy circuit. After
some time, this energy circuit gets suppressed, as our point of dominant focus
shifts to another event. However, this negative energy circuit remains in the
mind and keeps attracting energies of similar nature. Whenever we experience
similar kinds of emotions, they also get accumulated in the same energy
circuit, thus making it stronger.
The negative
emotional memories of past traumas in the subconscious mind get stpred as
energy units. These energy formations do not break till we make a conscious
attempt to break them, by releasing the negative energy accumulated in the mind
.
The
negative memory which was originally created
by the event which caused the strong emotional impact, and subsequently
reinforced by similar events which followed, needs to be re addressed and
erased , after learning the soul lesson involved.
.
Usually, any small reminder of the original
event triggers off the whole memorized film subconsciously . Even if we do not
recall the exact events, the feelings of distress pass through the wires of the
energy circuits as negative electric impuses, travelling at neon speed.
We experience deep feelings of hurt and pain which were experienced
during the original crisis situation, even though the present occasion may be
much milder and need not require arousal of such extreme distress.
Thus,
you feel a much greater surge of negative emotional energy getting released than
the present event can justify . At a
rational level, you do not understand why you are feeling so hurt .
Metaphorically,
this function of the subconscious mind
is similar to a programme opening
up, on the computer screen, by typing a
key word in the search engine.
Due to
these old energy circuits getting triggered off, we may react to the external
stimuli far more strongly than the present situation may warrantee.
This
aspect matters in daily functioning
because it determines how we manage our emotions in situations of stress.
For example, suppose you felt deeply humiliated
in childhood and your colleague did not have any such strong emotional
experience. Now, you both have a superior
who loses his temper often. . You feel deeply humiliated and hurt each time the
superior shouts at you. However, when the superior shouts at the colleague, he is
more indifferent about it.
Thus, his response to the superior’s
shouting, may be very different from yours , even though the external
experience for both of you was the same.
So, the superior would not understand
why you are taking his shouting negatively whereas your colleague is not. At a
rational, reasoning level there would be no justifiable reason for your feeling
humiliated when your other colleagues take the same experience indifferently.
Your
feeling of humiliation would affect your work performance negatively, and your
success would suffer. Thus, an emotional experience which you suppressed in
your childhood would affect your rational thought in the present day, since the
shouting triggers off a whole chain of suppressed negative emotions in your
mind.
To heal
this emotion, such as not to feel humiliated, you would need to resolve the
issue at the root cause because if you
don’t, the strong suppressed emotions would keep attracting similar energies.
To explain the need for healing the root
cause issue through a metaphor- if we, take the energy circulation in our body
as a flowing drain, a negative energy
reserve acts like a big rock stuck in the drain, which prevents water from
flowing through smoothly. A suppressed negative memory prevents us from
thinking and reacting rationally because the energy current pulling us down
towards negative impulsive thinking, is very strong.
When we heal this issue, we release the
stuck energy from the mind so that the drain gets cleared off and water can
start flowing smoothly again.
The
techniques for healing are dealt with in later chapters.
Right
now, we first need to understand how we can access these memories in the
subconscious mind. It is not difficult to access them because they anyway keep
coming up . Due to lack of awareness of techniques of emotional management, we
usually suppress these memories, whenever they come up. However, to move onto
happiness, we need to start confronting them,
so that we can heal them subsequently.
The
system in our body is so created that the subconscious mind keeps reminding us that
old suppressed negative emotions need to be healed and converted into positive
energy.
Learning task 2 –Getting in touch with the
subconscious mind
Part A - Think of any
emotional problem, which occurred in your early life and which still troubles
you. It can be anything very small as you mom scolding you or a fight in
school.
Write the feelings involved- anger, hurt,
fear, sadness, guilt, shock, betrayal feeling non-understood, violated etc.
Part B(optional)-Can you
also recall a recurrence of that specific feeling in your recent past?
Can you focus only on the
feelings involved irrespective of other factors ?
How often does that kind
of anger or sadness get triggered?
Do you feel the same emotion coming up, at the
back of your mind ( maybe in much smaller intensity) in your normal course of
life?
Do you suppress the
emotion to curtail it from becoming painful?
Keep focusing on the
emotion and dis-associate it with people or things. As you keep doing this, you
will learn to access the energy circuit ruling your feelings .
Focus will lead to healing and the emotional
chain will break overtime, through integrating several self
healing techniques. focusing on the negative as a n energy , irrespective of
other factors involves is the first step in breaking the chains forming the web
around it.
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