Several times we feel negative because we do not conform to social norms.
However, negative thinking is extremely harmful for the mind and body.
Feeling depressed, sad or hurt creates diseases in organs due to release of stress hormones.
Negative social conditioning causes mental stress which is unnecessary if we understand the soul's perspective of evolution.
Usually, we are mentally jailed by rules of parents, schools and society. We get used to sacrificing our happiness to meet demands of others from childhood,
Fear and negative competition rules our lives. Competition is the main reason for deciding what we desire in our life because from childhood we are taught that we should succeed because another is getting good grades.
Instead of teaching children how to find what gives them happiness and what does not , we teach children to constantly follow a generalized definition of happiness.
Happiness is unique to each soul. It cannot be the same for everyone. Everyone does not want a surfeit of consumer items to be happy.
For a woman , an understanding and loving husband may be far more important than a ruthless, arrogant billionairre. Similarly, for a man , an understanding and passionate wife may give a lot more fulfillment than a decked up beauty queen. For parents, a loving, affectionate child may be more peace giving than someone who excels in his school. For a child, parents who love unconditionally may help more in soul progress than parents who always demand something in return for love.
Happiness is an energy of positive vibration and can only come in when we love. like and accept ourselves as unique beings with different needs. When we are happy and satisfied in our core, all negative cravings vanish and creativity flourishes.
However we lose a lot of peace of mind because of trying to fit into norms as set by others. There are four main institutions of our society which are the pillars of our structure but which create the maximum reasons for negative thinking, stress and diseases.
The idea of soul evolution is to expand consciousness and choices of response. When we break walls of culture to find happiness by our own definitions, we merge our mind with that of the Creator who is ever evolving. We need to teach our kids to be happy with the choices they make in life , than force them to follow rules set by our ancestors.
God is not rigid in thinking. God is the most evolving, technologically advanced being. we need to understand what God stands for as an ideology than follow the interpretations of religious books which may be wrong.
Learning how to connect to God's thinking and mediating in white light or sunlight in abstract imagination, feeling the energy of transparency, flowing change and formlessness and smiling from within during difficulties by taking them as soul lessons of evolution, is necessary to realize true happiness and soul purpose of incarnation.
The following is an excerpt from the book IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS , how past lives affect the present, a soul's perspective
General Awareness- ‘Are we mentally jailed under Dinosauric institutions?’
Dev’s second past life session brought up another common problem which is one of the main causes of existence of negative energy in the world.
The problem is that of our need to follow institutionalization without questioning or allowing change in the set norms. We have structured our life around a wall of institutions like schooling, marriage, armies, and health services, which set the norms of how we should live our lives.
These norms are largely focused on achieving external measures of success, as defined by conventional doctrines, irrespective of whether these measures satisfy our core soul needs or not.
So, we want our children to go to school even if the syllabus taught may not help them understand what they need to learn to achieve happiness in life. We want armies to protect our countries even though maintaining armies uses funds which could otherwise be used for intellectual and emotional development of human beings. We follow health services which do not take into account the soul lessons involved behind recurring problems. And, we want to settle down in marriage with partners even though, marriage, as it exists today in several countries, tends to inhibit freedom of thought and expression instead of fostering it.
These institutions block soul evolution because of their resistance to change. They don’t accept new thought necessary for expanding horizons of the human mind towards a happier world.
Because these institutions exist and we feel compelled to follow them we feel like victims of negative circumstances.
As evolving souls, we feel jailed at energy levels due to repeatedly feeling mentally suppressed, even though we are not physically jailed.
These institutions can be called the DINOSAURS of society, because they are big in terms of the influence they exert and slow in terms of their ability to change.
If we were to give a shape to the concept of these institutions, they would appear like huge, rigid, Dinosauric thought forms.
Like Dev, we hold these institutions as our base foundations. Like him, usually, we too go by the label of the institution irrespective of whether the label justifies the ideals of the profession or not. Hence, whether a person chooses to be a soldier, a teacher, a doctor, or a homemaker, s/he rarely finds herself/himself doing what s/he intended to do, by joining the institutional set up of that profession.
Army – a soldier swears to fight for the people when he joins the army. Yet, very often, he ends up fighting for beliefs which do not help the common man achieve justice. He is not allowed to look into the deeper aspects of the war - like whether the war he fights is justified from the perspective of the weak and oppressed or whether the terrorists he kills have been unjustly exploited earlier.
The soldier chooses to give in to circumstances and not to think because, at an individual level, he finds the whole structure of the army too huge to fight against alone. He bends under the Dinosaur and allows it to continue ruling.
Instead, if funds used for maintaining armies could be used for fostering development of human conscience and intellect, there may be no more need of opting for wars to resolve problematic issues.
Education – Like the army, schooling is a base structure of our society. It lays foundations for adult lives. But, a teacher is usually, unable, to help kids develop coping skills for the emotional demands of adulthood.
We rarely use more than 30% of the theoretical concepts we study in schools in our professional lives but we use up a good deal of our precious founding years learning subject details which would not be relevant to us when we grow up and enter jobs or businesses.
How many of us need to know how fractions and trigonometry sums are solved or the distance of the Sun from the Earth in exact units or the type of algae that grow in water? Why is it relevant to teach all this when more important emotional learning skills need to be inculcated?
Instead of spending hours on lecturing about traditional subjects, concepts like stress management, love for fellow humans, understanding inner talents etc. can be practically taught which would help kids create positivity in their lives?
Most schools almost run like armies. Pupils are expected to obey authority without questioning it. The slow method of teaching a mass class causes frustration in several students who process information quicker than others. The need to develop patience to sit in a class-room often feels unnecessary especially to the brighter students. When forced upon, it may lead to violence among students who are otherwise, traumatized by having to study subjects they hardly find meaningful. Ritual is given priority over reason since the need to study becomes a ritualistic tradition than the need of the hour for the little, evolving minds.
Students and teachers are encouraged to blindly follow the Dinosauric institution of schooling, even if it spreads more negative than positive, growth oriented energy.
Instead, if students could learn from the beginning an open-ended syllabus which would also help them meet their soul needs, along with studying what is required to achieve external success, then their attitude towards learning would automatically become more positive.
Health - Like in other professions, the doctor needs to look beyond the external body for understanding the core need of the job he tries to do. He has to focus on the feelings underlying a disease to be able to heal the person satisfactorily.
Medications and surgical operations are very important because they help to clean existing clusters of negative energy and fill in deficits of positive energy. But, if physical problems are solved only by using medications people tend to ignore learning their soul lessons. That defeats the soul and makes it want to leave the body.
Medicines heal temporarily but if the emotional issues underlying persist, the problems repeat in the same form or in another form.
Hence, people keep facing similar kinds of body problems on a recurring basis, as they keep facing similar kinds of emotional traumas. For instance, joint pain shifts from one part of the body to another or skin disease and asthma alternate.
Energies of similar thoughts multiply. People do not realize that the problem recurs not because of failure of the medical system but because they do not raise their consciousness in tune with their soul evolution needs.
If repeatedly suppressed by medication, the emotional issue takes the form of a fatal disease because the soul chooses to then leave the body and come back with the same emotional unresolved lessons in a fresh body.
Doctors often suffer from stress and anxiety problems because of their frustration in being unable to help the patients get cured, as much as they would like to. Many of them start following holistic healing techniques over a period of time, but most of them remain bound under the constraints of their dinosauric medical institution.
For healing the soul, and the body together, the worldly phenomenon need to be studied more from the energy perspective than from the physically, tangible perspective. For the soul, which cannot access the physical, tangible world the disease exists only in the form of a low frequency thought or energy. So, for the thought to get healed and transcended into positive, the external form needs to be sidelined so that one can find out the reason behind the consistently, recurring negative thought which manifests the physical disease.
Marriage – the institution of marriage can be an important reason for negative thinking if two people choose to be in a marriage for reasons other than love or mutual compatibility. Staying married for the sake of children, money of convenience is not healthy for the body or the soul. We suffer from physical diseases, depressions and anxieties very often because we choose to stay with a person whose ideology causes much conflict in our minds.
There is a constant focus on negative aspects of life because we get entangled in arguments and blackmails. The feeling of helplessness perpetuates the marriage. We have a core desire to be loved and accepted which does not get satisfied by a marriage of convenience. When love dies out, the frustration of being non-understood keeps nagging us because we choose to stay married.
Yet, we like to believe the marriage is satisfying its purpose by helping us live as a unit, just as Dev chose to believe that being in the army would spread justice.
Any institution which spreads more negative energy in our lives than positive needs to be reviewed, be it a job, a course of study , a marriage or a medical treatment.
Learning to focus on what the soul desires emotionally is necessary before choosing to continue on a dysfunctional way of life.
We cannot attain the satisfaction we desire from our efforts if the soul, the energy within us does not feel satisfied with the outcome of our work. External rewards are meaningless if we do not feel content internally.
Just following labels, and moving in the shadow of dinosaurs, may not help us to achieve our purpose of life from the soul’s perspective. We cannot expect happiness to automatically fall into our laps if we do not make efforts to change our beliefs and structural institutions which make us focus more on unhappiness.
All these institutions have to be revamped and rebuilt in a way that the soul can learn its lessons and grow by following them instead of having to slow down its evolution by feeling constricted. Their present structure needs to become extinct with the coming era just as Dinosaurs became extinct with the Ice ages so that a New Age could set in.
excerpt from Chapter - 5 THE CONFLICT IN HIS MIND- section 4
Merge in the sunlight and feel ur rays spreading wide
consciousness is ever changing, dont build walls inside
as long as you feel positive and peaceful with the choices you make
you will be aligned with your soul's purpose through all life's waves
dont depend on other human beings for approval
when in doubt, connect directly to God's consciousness as being in Oneness